Sep 17, 2021 in Life Coaching

Escaping Toxic Relationships

It's time to get out! Toxic relationships can be detrimental not only to our mental health but also the quality of our life.

Ava Garcia

27 Mar

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

27 Mar

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

27 Mar

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

27 Mar

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

27 Mar

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

27 Mar

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

27 Mar

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

27 Mar

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

15 Mar

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

15 Mar

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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What is the true definition of a relationship?

Is it an avenue to getting laid whenever? or is it to build a bond between two people who find each other attractive mentally and physically?

All these are just but wild guesses.

Yes, they make some sense, but none of them get even close to the actual definition. Its characters can only define a genuine love relationship.

A true relationship is based on understanding, where none thinks of himself only, one with automatic chemistry and above all one made of frequent arguments and instant make-ups to each.

On the other hand, the opposite is an unhealthy relationship, aka a "toxic relationship." A 'love doctor' once defined toxic relationships as bonds between two needy individuals. In the long run, it ends up being a union defined by parasitical behaviour.

What is a parasitic relationship, you may ask? In the animal world, parasitic relationships are victims and parasites in relationships, each with their degree of 'sickness.' In some cases, the situation is relatively mild that one can hardly notice that the relationship is toxic.

After the effects reveal themselves, they see the relationship is unhealthy, but it is usually too late by then. However, there are ways of escaping such relationships.

Once you find out that you are in a toxic relationship, the best thing to do is leave before it worsens. Some may feel that's too severe due to the bond that has been formed between the two. However, staying in a relationship as such can affect your mental health leading to trauma and depression.

Taking some time off to re-think things out can provide an ample amount of clarity for what's next for you. Preferably, take a few months to yourself. During this time, certain conditions you and your partner should adhere to include; not keeping in touch during this time, reset the clock once one of you goes against the agreement, write letters to each other exposing your feelings and present them after the period is over. Make sure that you meet in a very neutral area.

Come to a mutual agreement once you meet or agree to disagree. Make sure the two of you come to a deal during the final meeting. Hire a professional life coach to help you heal and bring things into perspective!