The many facets of attraction are just as plentiful as the types of human relationships, but there is nothing quite comparable to the overwhelming emotions that accompany a new romantic or sexual partnership. In some cases, the earnestness of these feelings may make it difficult to distinguish the difference between love and infatuation.

What is Infatuation?

The infatuation definition varies significantly from the definition of love. Infatuation is all-consuming, addictive, and unreasonable. It moves in a rush and can take over your life to the point that the infatuation is all that defines you. This type of attraction is dangerous, as infatuated individuals often ignore their true needs and the needs of their partner.

There is no satisfaction in infatuation—only disappointment and emptiness.

You may experience infatuation symptoms such as:

• Recklessness (performing high-risk sexual behaviors, for example);
• Jealousy or possessiveness;
• A tendency to neglect other important parts of your life (family, school, or work);
• Intrusive thoughts;
• Stress and exhaustion.

Infatuation vs. Love

While love and infatuation are both extraordinarily intense feelings, the differences between them are many. 

Infatuation may be more common at the beginning of a relationship when the attraction is all-consuming and sexual desire trumps the development of deeper emotions. Love, on the other hand, develops at a steadier pace. While mutual love between partners results in a healthy and fulfilling relationship, long-term infatuation will more often lead to a feeling of loneliness.

We’ve reviewed some symptoms of infatuation, but what about love? It looks quite different. Those in love may experience signs of a healthy relationship including:

• Proceeding at a pace comfortable for both members of the relationship;
• Mutual trust and honesty;
• Enrichment in parts of life outside of the relationship;
• The ability to maintain personal space and boundaries;
• Thoughtful communication surrounding sexual activity.

Does Infatuation Turn into Love?

Simply put, there is no straightforward answer to this. At times, it can go away and no deeper feelings are developed for the other person. However, infatuation can turn into love. 

Start by asking yourself whether you can see yourself being romantically involved with this person and if you can stay committed in the long-run. 

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