Feb 1, 2021 in Life Coaching
What makes Proximity difficult?
Do you know how law of familiarity can destroy you from achieving your goals?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
What do you see in the mirror?
Reflection of the candles? What's that reflection doing? Increasing the light..? What's the original candle doing? Spreading it's energy to reduce the mist on the mirror and clearing things out?
This is how proximity works. The original candle, say if it's a person who's purpose is to guide people and lighten up lives... He/she should go near or be close to people who want to recieve guideline willingly. And if it's about the candles in the reflection, say if it's people who want to get enlightened should go close to people who are already in that field and who already are willing to help.
Proximity's principle is best described by Ken Coleman, " To do what I want to do l have to be around people who are doing it and the places it's happening".
Here's my question... Why would you be at such a place or be around such people? Easy... Because, you value what you own, and value those who own similar ideas. So, how do you work for it?
"Proximity doesn't breed familiarity." Maureen Johnson
Don't let familiarity get in your way, and let's you to disregard what you own, and what is around you.
What it is that you are taking granted for, the most in your life? Put yourself into self accountability. Think... And then, realize what have you you been doing with that particular thing you have been taking lightly, yet it was around you!?
That's how we take things when they are quite familiar to us. Be it a person, a place, a job, a blessing...
At first, we enjoy it. But, when we see that they are easily available for us all the time, we barely appreciate those little things. And look for what's negative in that. We forget the positive qualities! That's human nature!
We value what's unfamiliar, and start devaluing what is familiar.
So, let's start by practicing on valuing what we have around us, who we have around us... Let's use this law in a way that it doesn't let's our lives get negative. Use it positively, as best thing or person is the one who already knows you too well and is available there always for you.