Dec 26, 2020 in Life Coaching
Criticism: breaking the cycle
A different view on how to deal with it...
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Look at this flower and also notice it's surrounding... What have you observed??
I would love to share a quote here as a hint...
"You will be never criticized by someone, who is doing more than you, you will always be criticized by the one who is doing less than you." Tom Cruise
Now look closely and see the difference in your observation... The flower is full of colors and the surrounding is barren.
Why do people do that? It's quite clear now. But, we need to distinguish first, between the good and the bad criticism. How will you do that?
Many people get offended, when criticized. And forget the line between the positive/ negative one... To prevent this....
Whenever criticized... Ask yourself:
1. What's the purpose behind this?
2. Is this for my own good, or development or is it constructive in any way?
If these two, give you a positive answer... Better start working on what you are criticized upon. How?
1. Understand the intentions of your crtisizer.
2. Be thankful for the part they play to construct you.
3. Apologize for your weakness
If it's other way round, before conclusions, ask yourself this:
3. Is it some kind of objection against you? A way to show that it is a mistake, that you are at wrong?
If this is the case, then you should discern by following these steps;
1. Stay calm and quite in such situation. And listen to it carefully, sometimes even negativity teaches you something positive.
2. Again, try to evaluate the psychological aspects of that person's mind.
3. If you can't hold on much, leave that place but with respect for their views.
My advice is to, whatever it is... Learn from it. And work to improve it as it will make you a better version of yourself in any way.