Jun 25, 2021 in Counseling
How You Harm Yourself & Your Relationship Potential
Toxic and limiting beliefs and behaviors that harm you and your relationship potential.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Good Relationships are hard work! They don’t just happen.
Nor are they just for the lucky & the strong!
Everyone is capable of having a mutual loving caring fulfilling relationship. Someone who puts you first. Someone whom you can trust, where their actions and words are aligned.
Someone who is willing to go the distance with you, do whatever it takes for the betterment and growth of the relationship. We all want that, let's be honest!
BUT, what does it really take?
Relationships take nurturing and tender care. Just like a baby, or a flower in need of water and sun, just the same a relationship needs consistent loving and care.
Let me tell you a big TRUTH!
YOU and your partner ARE THE SEEDS in your relationship, and how you tend to it will be the quality and outcome of that relationship. To tend to it properly you need to be aware of yourself first. Before you even involve yourself with another, you need to know yourself.
Add to myWE:
It took me years of toxic, failed relationships, years of therapy, counseling, self help books and courses, to come to this truth and I want to save you the time, effort and pain.
Knowing your blocks and limiting behaviors will help you:
- Get insight to why you make the choices you do and why you allow things you feel you shouldn’t.
- Identify your negative relationship pattern.
- Identify your intentions when dealing with your partner or potential partner.
- Information about ourselves gives us the power to make the changes we want because everybody is capable of achieving more!
Toxic – limiting beliefs & behaviors that harm you and your relationship potential:
- Rushing relationships to keep them exciting
- Acting outside my values to keep a relationship going.
- Needing to be in a relationship all the time, rain-checking, setting up a new relationship without closure on the one I am currently in.
- Always choosing unavailable partners
- Being very sexual very early on in the relationship
- Dating people who remind you of your mother or father
- Ending relationships when they become too intimate
- Objectifying people as mere sex objects.
- Thinking that If I do all the work, give all the love, I can make the relationship work.
- Think that I can change them.
- Having an attitude and or limiting belief of “if they loved me they would….” (reality check my expectations!)
- Changing myself in order to please my partner. Liking what they like. etc..
- Revolving my whole schedule around theirs.
- Ignoring all my friends when I am in a relationship.
- Canceling prior plans so I can see my partner.
What other behaviors or limiting beliefs do you think you have that harm you and your relationship potential? I am always open to hearing new ideas!
Relationship counseling and coaching has helped me tremendously in my own personal relationships and I’d like to do the same for you.