Feb 12, 2021 in Life Coaching

Climb out of your Problems using ROPES

Guides readers to solve problems.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

17 Jan

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

17 Jan

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

17 Jan

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

17 Jan

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

17 Jan

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

17 Jan

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

17 Jan

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Climb out of your Problems using ROPES.

1. Practice Conscious Breathing

Take some time about five to ten minutes to breathe in and out, paying attention to your breath. It calms you physically, mentally and emotionally.

2. Tell yourself to stay calm. Tell yourself again and again. "I am calm."

3. Believe that you are greater and stronger than the problem that is ahead of you.

4. Study the problem and look for ropes in the problem/difficult situations.

5. Use the ropes to your best advantage. Tell yourself in the midst of chaos, there are ropes for you to climb out of any problem/difficult situation.

6. Never let the problem cloud your thinking and feelings.

7. Take breaks in between and re-charge yourself.

8. Remain balanced and focus on what matters to you, your needs and desired outcomes.

9. Simple ways work better. Use less complex methods to solve problems. Go from point A to point B. Do not move from point A to point C and then to point B unless it is necessary. You need to save your energy when dealing with problems/difficult situations, never exhaust yourself while finding solutions.

10. Write down how you solved the problem. Evaluate your strategy (workable and unworkable methods), sharpen and reapply it.

What are ROPES?
Resources, Opportunities, Possibilities, Exceptions and Strengthens.