Feb 12, 2021 in Life Coaching

Develop Reasoning Skills

This article guides readers on understanding and applying reasoning skills.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

2 Jun

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

2 Jun

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

31 May

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

31 May

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

2 Jun

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

2 Jun

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

2 Jun

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

30 May

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

30 May

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Before developing our reasoning skills, let's understand on how rationalizing works.

In a Reflective Context:
Our reflections are based on rationalizing if our thoughts, behavior and actions are influenced by our biases, beliefs, assumptions, personal experiences, needs, interests, and so forth.

For instance, I drink soft drinks and eat chocolates because I am rewarding myself. By rewarding myself, I am able to enhance my focus, work and study better. Here, I am rationalizing my actions (aligning my actions with my interests).

In a Relational Context:
If I say, “I do not agree to this because I was not taught in school, because my boss said it is not true, hence, I think this is right and this is wrong," or "I agree to this because my friend and my uncle told me so.” I am rationalising (aligning my communication with some borrowed ideas).

When applying reasoning skills, I would say, "I drink soft drinks and eat chocolates to cope better with my work and studies even when I know it is unhealthy thus I will find healthier ways to enhance my focus next time."

Developing Reasoning Skills help us to:
-Take a nonjudgmental stand.
-Accept our flaws.
-Listen to the point of others without imposing our values, and beliefs.
-Accept the differences of others.
-Be conscious and sensitive about the values, beliefs, experiences and culture of others while conversing.
-Work towards well- justified and morally acceptable results.
-Respect and embrace, that everyone is on their personal journey here and each of us hold different experiences in life.
-Give responses instead of reactions.
-Improve intrapersonal and interpersonal intelligence.
- Improve communication skills.

Rationalizing supports us to stick to our positive values, uphold morals and cope with challenges and reasoning skills help us to make better choices and wiser decisions thus it is good to practice both and apply them in the most suitable context.

How to develop reasoning skills:
Simply be watchful over your own biases, interests, conditioning, values, beliefs, personal strengths, limitations, experiences, assumptions and so forth from clouding your thoughts and feelings, behaviour and actions when reflecting and relating.