Feb 12, 2021 in Life Coaching
Reverence to Self-Reflections: The Gateway to Higher Sense of Self-Awareness
This article highlights the importance of self- reflection and guides reader on self-questioning.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
The purpose of self-reflection is to know about ourselves. By knowing about ourselves, we raise our sense of self- awareness. Why does one has to raise self-awareness? A higher sense of self-awareness hones our ability to solve problems, control and manage challenging situations, comprehend and communicate effectively and develop personal responsibility in making choices and decisions that suit our best interests.
Imagine either coming across a colleague who spews satirical remarks about your new tie and shoes or a boss who constantly nags and finds flaws in everyone's work, what does these behaviour about such a colleague and boss reflect? It reflects their poor sense of self-awareness; and your reactions or responses to these people and situations reflect yours.
So how could we manage these impelling forces that are beyond our locus of control? How could we remain grounded and shrewd and respond in an assertive and adroit manner? One way is to sharpen our sense of self awareness through good reflective questions, when I say good reflective questions I m referring to questions that are radical and not just touching the tip of the iceberg.
We should constantly ask ourselves questions about our own thoughts, feelings, actions and behavior. We should be aware that thoughts generate feelings in us and we start to act and behave in a way our thoughts and feelings drive us. Hence, to be completely aware of ourselves, it is imperative to be a witness of our own thoughts and feelings, and be watchful over our speech, actions and behaviour.
We can practice by asking ourselves these questions during self reflection:
1) Why am I thinking in this way?
2) What caused this thought to develop in my mind?
3) How did this thought came into my mind?
4) From where or whom did this thought came to me?
5) How do I feel whenever this thought arises in me?
6) What would happen if I act out this thought?
7) What happens if I allow this thought to take control over me?
8) What are the effects of this thought remaining in me?
9) How could I use this thought as a fuel to overcome the challenging person or situation in an assertive way?
10) Why do I speak, act or behave in this way?
11) Does my speech, actions and behavior align, with respect and sensitivity for the thoughts and feelings of myself and others?
12) Does my speech, actions and behavior align, with values, beliefs and culture sensitivity of myself and others?
13) Are my actions, behaviour and speech morally right?
The above questions are suggested to help those who are battling with personal issues and challenging situations. Of course, self- reflection is like walking into a deep dark cave and new questions will surface 'during the walk towards thyself.' The ultimate goal of self reflection is to grow and strengthen our sense of self- awarenesss and personhood. Thus, enjoy the process and create a stronger, smarter and better version of yourself.