Nov 20, 2020 in Life Coaching

The Quickest Way to Free Your Mind

Feeling overwhelmed, stressed, worried or panicked? That's okay. Breathe. It's normal. We all have these moments.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

28 Sep

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

28 Sep

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

28 Sep

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

12 Sep

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

28 Sep

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

28 Sep

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

28 Sep

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

28 Sep

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

28 Sep

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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So here's what I do when I notice I have gone into this head space of total meltdown.

Firstly, I catch myself. I become aware that I have gone into a head spin and I tell myself it's okay. Then I notice where my feet are. Yes, I ask myself - where are my feet? I look at my feet. Then I look up, and look around the room/office/place where I am, and in my mind I start naming 5 things I can see, 4 things I can hear, 3 things I can smell, 2 things I can touch and 1 thing I can taste.

What this quick practice does is centre and ground myself back in the present moment. With lots of practice, we begin to notice that most of the time (maybe 8 or 9 times out of 10), when we are caught in feelings of overwhlem, stress, worry or panic; it is our thoughts that are creating these situations, as opposed to our present moment. Yes, we may be facing a challenging situation, but when you get present again, you see that your thoughts add legs and arms to the event and make it much more worse. Connecting back to the present and what is actually happening, is the quickest way to free your mind.

When we are present, we can take action and do what's necessary to move through the challenge. When we're in our head caught in a story, that's where we stay and we end up feeling more exasperated.

Try it out. Let me know what you think. And remember it takes practice to build the awareness.