Apr 15, 2021 in Counseling
The grass is greener syndrome, is it you?
The grass is greener condition affects couples living in a very steady manner.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
The grass is a greener condition that affects couples living in a very steady manner. There is a nagging thought of having a better relationship. And you find someone else’s life or any other person more ideal than your partner. You feel that your present relationship is not capable enough to make you happy. How do you know that it is the grass is greener syndrome or your relationship has come to an end?
Constantly noticing what is wrong.
You are constantly picking on things that are not even important so start to check in and take inventory. Notice when you have thoughts that feel bad and realize they only feel bad because you are approaching a situation from a perspective that is not serving you. You can turn that around, perspective remember. The grass is greener syndrome is a feeling and can be adjusted.
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Being critical and complaining often.
Constructive criticism does not hurt. It advises and informs. If you take it up another notch beyond constructive, it can destroy someone’s life. You may think you are helping if you are always criticizing your partner, but something else is happening. You find yourself alone or trapped in a negative cycle. There are consequences when you point a finger at someone.
A tendency to be a perfectionist.
I guess we are all guilty to some degree because we all want our relationship/marriages to be perfect, but if we are measuring our partner against unrealistic goals and expectations then you risk losing a relationship that could be perfect for you.
always on the lookout for opportunity. Ever notice that your friend’s girlfriend is more talented than your girlfriend, that when you go out with your woman the other women around has something on her, that you cannot see why guys would do a double-take on her, for some reason she is just not measuring up and it has to be her. I was talking to the men there for a mixture but ladies you know what I am talking about when most of the guys around are looking more appealing than your man? You find yourself being very nice to others, still searching for an opportunity to meet someone nice that fits your mould, and you feel that the reason you are still looking is that your partner is not measuring up.
Sabotaging things often or run away.
One of the main reasons why people sabotage their relationships is the fear of intimacy.
Because early trusting relationships with parents or caregivers were broken by abuse, people who fear intimacy believe that people who love them will inevitably hurt them. The big issue with this is if you find that intimacy makes you feel good but when commitment steps in that feeling of normalcy scare you and you think someone else will make you feel then it could be the syndrome.
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Unable to commit to things.
You both have been together for a while, but you are feeling stuck, you are just not able to commit to things with your partner, if your partner was different, better, more suited for you, just not compatible enough and the list goes on, it may not be your partner, it could be you.
Future-focused to the point you never enjoy the present.
The grass is greener syndrome I think this quote said it all, “It is difficult to live in and enjoy the moment when you are thinking about the past or worrying about the future. You cannot change your past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about your future. Learn from the past, plan for the future. The more you live in and enjoy the present moment, the happier you will be.”
― Roy T. Bennett,
You may not be feeling your partner after many years of being together, there are no challenges really and things are as steady as she goes, if that is you then do not let the grass is greener syndrome destroy what you may never find again.