Nov 6, 2020 in Life Coaching
All areas of your life will have been affected to a greater or lesser degree by the pandemic.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
As we go into ‘Lockdown v2’ here in England, I was reminded of a wonderful quote by Vivian Greene (wife of the novelist Graham Greene) ‘Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain’.
I have spoken to so many people since March and the first Lockdown, whose career and or personal life has taken a buffering from the storm of the pandemic and the enforced changes to their lives. And yet the rain still continues to fall…
No matter how consistent and focused you want your life to be, things happen around you all of the time, things that will force you to adapt.
Some of the things that you relied on are no longer there; your morning commute, that time you get to listen to your own music! Working alongside colleagues, popping out for lunch or coffee.
And yet we adapt.
All areas of your life will have been affected to a greater or lesser degree by the pandemic. Yet you can still stay true to yourself whilst adapting to the circumstances around you.
I talk a lot about adaptability and mindset through my coaching, because you are doing it consciously or unconsciously all of the time. You need to adapt to grow!
But adaptability is not about a single big step.
It’s the reason why I am big on goals with clients, breaking down the dream into manageable chunks. Adaptability is a continuous process of improvement, in small steps. It allows you to confirm the positive change with yourself and then move on.
Dave Brailsford would call this ‘marginal gains’.
The ability to learn from your own and others’ experiences is another way in which you adapt, you re-think and form new or break bad habits, you change your environment or your social circle.
A first child brings about a huge change in life, your boiler breaks down, you get a puncture in your car or bike, your internet goes down, etc.
Faced with any of these situations you adapt!
How you respond to challenges in life defines you as a person. Every situation is an opportunity to learn and take something away, either about someone, something or yourself.
It allows you to become creative, dream new dreams, re-focus, set new goals and to take a new direction.
As Jimmy Dean once said ‘I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination’.
For many of you Lockdown will have provided an opportunity to do just this. A time to reflect on where you are at right now, how that sits with your short, medium and long term goals and whether or not you need to adjust your sails.
If you are going in the right direction, excellent, keep going!
If you’re not, why not get in touch and lets start a conversation.
None of us are ever too old to learn to dance in the rain or adjust our sails.
After all we are adapting all of the time…