Nov 3, 2020 in Life Coaching

Define don't be defined

I originally wrote this article as we entered the first lockdown, it's content is still as valid today as it was back then.

13 members found this to be effective.

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Ava Garcia

2 Jun

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

2 Jun

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

2 Jun

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

31 May

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

5 Jun

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

2 Jun

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

2 Jun

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

2 Jun

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

Answer 99 answers • 4 Experts joined

Martha Diaz

30 May

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

30 May

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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What we believe about ourselves is not always true because who we are is sometimes different to who we really are.

As people we are so much more than our career, yet many of us allow it to define who we are.

Hilary Clinton once said ‘Don’t confuse having a career with having a life’

It is true that our career will define us in many ways and we cannot doubt that it plays a crucial part in our lives. However, if we are not careful about getting the balance right across our life, we can find that the hours and days are consumed just by work.

Sometimes this can happen unconsciously but it can also be something we strive for, to become the ‘go to’ person, the ‘expert’, the person ‘who gets things done’ or ‘knows someone who can’.

Career

CV/Resume

Job interview

An effect of this is that we begin to lose sight of who we really are.

For many people the pandemic will have been both eye-opening and challenging in this respect.

Hopefully one positive will have been an opportunity to kick-back and begin to reconnect with who we really are. The who we were before we began to let our career define who we are now.

Life coaching can help you; identify what you really want in your life, help you to set boundaries and raise standards, improve your work life balance and help you explore your life’s purpose and vision and integrate it into your life path.

As we ease continue on the current roller coaster and enter another month of lockdown, ask yourself ‘Are you prepared to break the mould and define who you are and what you want out of life or continue to be defined?’