Jun 2, 2021 in Life Coaching
The Secret to Great Sex
Besides our basic needs, physical connection and intimacy is what we all search for.
It's your turn now! Let's support each other by clicking "Helpful".
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Finding Freedom Through Connection
Besides our basic needs, physical connection and intimacy is what we all search for. Without physical connection a childs' development can be severely retarded, often resulting in; nervous system dysregulation and in extreme cases, the physical growth of the child can be stunted.
The rise in depression is a key example of how this lack of intimacy has affected people (of course there are other factors too). We have focused on the material aspects of life, looking for fulfillment in materiality, not understanding that it is our need for acceptance from our peers, that drives most of actions. As if saying; 'Look at me! I'm enough! I matter! I am valuable! Love me!'
When our efforts bring no sense of accomplishment or only temporarily make us feel fulfillment, we feel increasingly sad, lonely and disconnected.
What we are all needing is genuine intimacy and connection. When we look at our technologies we see how they are shaped by a global need to be social and to connect.
Add to myWE:
In the realm of the intimate even sex is greatly enhanced when there is true connection. "Quickies", for example ( a superficial way to fulfill a need- which does not give us what we really want) can leave people feeling empty. Making love to someone can make sex a completely different experience because of our willingness to be vulnerable and open to connection.
We have heightened experiences when we accept our bodies and our desires (intimacy with ourselves) and communicate those needs to a partner who is open and non judgmental, in a way which does not force our desires upon them. If our partner is aligned they'll do the same with us.
Yet! True intimacy comes when our focus is on giving pleasure to our partner whilst being open to direct them on how to please us. When we focus on our own needs during sex we prevent intimacy, because it shows we do not trust the other to fulfill our needs and you can't have intimacy without trust.
Profound connection/intimacy is what we humans want yet we also don't get it because we are afraid of that intimacy. We are afraid to be vulnerable.
True intimacy and connection starts with the self, with accepting and loving all aspects of ourselves then being brave enough to be vulnerable and open to another.