Ways to improve Communcation
This post is about communication.
1. Be direct
It is so crucial in a relationship to speak up about what your needs and wants are. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion and your feelings. Sometimes you might be passive aggressive in trying to get across what it is that you need and want. However that is not going to work, you need to be direct. And keep in mind that people are not mind readers.
Improving your communication is going to require you to listen and actually hear what the other person is saying. Listen with an open mind and try to understand from their point of view. Make sure you are engaged and are taking in what they are saying.
3. Don’t assume things.
This happens all the time, we let our mind wander and we start making assumptions about small things. A lot of times, these assumptions are false and have nothing to do with us at all; it could be that they are going through their own thing. Therefore always always’s ask instead of assuming. It will improve your relationships and save you from unnecessary drama.
4. Apologize when you’re in the wrong.
In relationships we have to learn to take accountability for our actions. We have to learn to apologize when we are wrong. And in order to do that, we have to be self aware. There are a lot of people that never want to take ownership of their behaviour; they always want to play the victim role. You need to learn to reflect on your behaviour and see the role you played. Therefore apologize when you’re wrong, learn and grow from it.
5. Don't say and do things when you are angry.
When we are in a state of rage, our judgement is clouded. We say and do things that we will regret later on. My rule is do nothing for day or two, sleep on it and reflect on the situation. A lot of the times your reaction will be different, when you’re not angry. I know it's easier said than done, however things said in a moment of anger, can leave you tons of regret later on.
6. Learn what your triggers are and self soothe
Be aware of your triggers and dig deep down to see why this is a trigger for you. Try to do things that will help soothe you, so you are not triggered into a rage. At the end of the day no one should have the power to dictate your emotions. Therefore always keep in mind that you can't control the actions of others but you have the power to control the way you react.