Nov 2, 2020 in Life Coaching
Ways to improve Communcation
This post is about communication.
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
1. Be direct
It is so crucial in a relationship to speak up about what your needs and wants are. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion and your feelings. Sometimes you might be passive aggressive in trying to get across what it is that you need and want. However that is not going to work, you need to be direct. And keep in mind that people are not mind readers.
Improving your communication is going to require you to listen and actually hear what the other person is saying. Listen with an open mind and try to understand from their point of view. Make sure you are engaged and are taking in what they are saying.
3. Don’t assume things.
This happens all the time, we let our mind wander and we start making assumptions about small things. A lot of times, these assumptions are false and have nothing to do with us at all; it could be that they are going through their own thing. Therefore always always’s ask instead of assuming. It will improve your relationships and save you from unnecessary drama.
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4. Apologize when you’re in the wrong.
In relationships we have to learn to take accountability for our actions. We have to learn to apologize when we are wrong. And in order to do that, we have to be self aware. There are a lot of people that never want to take ownership of their behaviour; they always want to play the victim role. You need to learn to reflect on your behaviour and see the role you played. Therefore apologize when you’re wrong, learn and grow from it.
5. Don't say and do things when you are angry.
When we are in a state of rage, our judgement is clouded. We say and do things that we will regret later on. My rule is do nothing for day or two, sleep on it and reflect on the situation. A lot of the times your reaction will be different, when you’re not angry. I know it's easier said than done, however things said in a moment of anger, can leave you tons of regret later on.
6. Learn what your triggers are and self soothe
Be aware of your triggers and dig deep down to see why this is a trigger for you. Try to do things that will help soothe you, so you are not triggered into a rage. At the end of the day no one should have the power to dictate your emotions. Therefore always keep in mind that you can't control the actions of others but you have the power to control the way you react.