Sep 11, 2022 in Life Coaching
WHAT ARE GENERATIONAL CURSES & HOW TO OVERCOME THEM
Have you ever wondered why you or someone you know seems to have bad breaks no matter what they do?
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Have you ever wondered why you or someone you know seems to have bad breaks no matter what they do? You’ve probably heard someone say when bad or unwanted circumstances keep repeating, “It runs in the family.”
Have you found yourself saying, “I’ll always struggle with my anger? I’ll never get ahead in life. I’ll always have this illness?”
Individuals and even families all seem to carry the excess baggage of bad luck, bad health, divorce, bad relationships, victimhood, addictions, destructive emotions, thievery, physical assaults, and other harmful habits and actions.
Being human means, you have generational curses to work on. I have yet to meet one person who doesn’t have some toxic behavior that needs healing. Remember, we’re all in this world together.
“Never underestimate a cycle breaker. Not only did they experience years of generational trauma, but they stood in the face of the trauma and fought to say, “This ends with me.” This is brave. This is powerful. This comes at a significant cost. Never underestimate a cycle breaker.”
Defining a Generational Curse
A generational curse is toxic habits or behaviors passed from one generation to the next. I want to clarify that you are not automatically cursed through your bloodline. If you come from a family history of drug and alcohol addiction, it doesn’t automatically mean you will too.
However, it can pass on to your children.
Perhaps you are a workaholic. To break the addiction to working nonstop, you must prioritize rest and relaxation to balance yourself.
Speaking about balancing yourself out. Most unhealthy habits are a result of an imbalance in your energy system. I found the more I exercise regularly, the less likely I am to eat junk food.
Think back to when you were a child. What negative habits and behaviors did your parents have? What about your relatives like grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins?
Do you have these same unhelpful habits too?
“Pain travels through family lines until someone is ready to heal it in themselves. By going through the agony of healing, you no longer pass the poison chalice onto the generations that follow. It is incredibly important and sacred work.”
Below are some examples of generational curses.
- Drug addiction
- Bad health
- Criminal behavior
- Low self-esteem
- Dependence on others
- Poor personal boundaries
“For many of us, our generational curse is avoidance. We come from people who just act like it didn’t/doesn’t happen. But pain demands to be felt. And somewhere along the line, a child will be born whose charge it is to feel it all.”
Devil Inside, Every Single One Of Us The Devil Inside
Have you ever listened to the
There is a devil inside us, but some wear it outward. Have you ever felt like some opposing force within you causing you to be or do something destructive that doesn’t serve yourself?
It’s the devil inside.
“I was on a God, and the Devil phase there,” INXS lead singer Michael Hutchence said of the lyric in the book Classic Albums. “I suppose it’s to do with the chaos of everything, you know? And we can put it into religious terms, I suppose. The Devil is chaotic. So that every time you think something’s right, he comes in and changes everything.”
The key to understanding the devil inside is knowing that it exists. Eckhart Tolle describes this devil inside as “The Pain Body.” Eckhart overcame his pain body/devil inside by letting go and being still and seeing it for what it is – Unprocessed and unreleased negative emotional energy.
It took Eckhart a year or two to release his emotional baggage, including expectations from people close to him. He is now a “free man,” enjoying life without all of the drama, hustle, and heartache that most people experience daily.
Eckhart learned not to identify with his thoughts and feelings. He learned not to get caught up in his thoughts and feelings. Instead, he viewed them as temporary visitors that come and go.
Breaking Generational Curses
Ending generational curses is no easy task. Many will not try. However, if you want to impact the world, you can start with yourself.
The generational curse may have run in your family until it ran into you. The Universe has selected you to break the cycle. Generational curses stop with you.
I see many people projecting their unhealed insecurities on the world and its people. We have angry people who have not healed themselves and are taking it out on innocent people. We can do better, and it starts within.
Heal yourself before you go out and try to change the world.
Working on your personal and spiritual growth for the rest of your life is the best thing you can do to break the chain of generational curses so future generations in your bloodline won’t have it so hard.
You must work on healing yourself physically and emotionally when it comes to your personal growth. The emotional wounds you carry are toxic to you and anyone who comes in contact with you.
I recommend learning to sit still and quiet the mind daily. Too often, we get caught up in our imagination and thoughts and start to believe them. You must rise above your thinking mind and connect to your higher self.
One technique I learned to complete the connection to your higher self is to sit down and cross your legs at the ankles. Next, clasp your hands together and make a point with your two pointer fingers. Close your eyes calm your nerves, and breathe.
Ask for guidance, healing, and blessings so that you can help others to thrive.
Personal Growth for Generational Curses
Breaking the chains of your generational curses will not happen all at once. It is a process and will take as long as it needs to.
Worrying about things that haven’t happened or may not happen will drain you and leave you feeling pessimistic. Overthinking will destroy your inner peace. Learn to meditate, ground yourself, and be still. This will calm your overactive mind and reduce your fearful thoughts.
Stay positive and stay the course. Take a look at the people you spend time with. Do they lift you up and help you grow? Or do they keep you small and trapped in your generational curses?
What do you listen to or watch? Is it informative and useful? Or does it increase your anxiety?
When breaking a generational curse, you will experience many paradigm shifts in your life. Maybe you’ll change jobs or move to a location that feels better for you. You must have a strong center and be spiritually and morally grounded to be free from generational curses.
Work on your moral compass and see if your actions align with who you really are beyond the generational curses. You will eventually begin to enjoy working on yourself and cutting out activities, beliefs, and people who do not make you a better person.
Find out who you are. Being still and quieting the egoic mind is the only way.
Being still slows the energy of your body’s energetic system, which allows your conscious self to see what is really going on.