Nov 10, 2020 in Life Coaching

When and Whom To Ask For Help

When life begins to feel as if it is too heavy, uncertain, lost and directionless we need to ask for help. Who do we ask?

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Ava Garcia

16 Nov

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

16 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

16 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

16 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

16 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

16 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

16 Nov

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

16 Nov

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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“It isn't so much the act of asking that paralyzes us--it's what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.”? Amanda Palmer

When life begins to feel as if it is too heavy, uncertain, lost and directionless we need to ask for help. Asking for help is not easy for most, as it seems like a sign of weakness. Is it a weakness or is it pure intelligence? When you can ask for help you are indicating that you do not know something or are unclear in that particular area of life and want to know more. By not knowing and wanting to know more on how to improve is a sign of growth and knowledge. Where is the weakness in that, is that not a strength?

Humans have desires, dreams, goals, ideas that they want to accomplish and are uncertain as to how to get there. If you have dreams and goals, try and set aside uncertainties or pride and ask for help.

If you are ready to ask for help, you are definitely growing as a person. When life begins to feel as if it is too heavy, uncertain, lost and directionless we need to ask for help. Asking for help is important and better yet, who do we ask? What type of person?

Here are a few suggestions that might help you find the person that can help you achieve your goals in any part of your life to not feel weak or a burden.

Find someone that aligns with your dreams.
Look for a person that can see what is important and matters to you.
This person understands the deeper meaning or personal significance of the goals you have.
Provide different scenarios on how to reach your goals (not one size fits all).

I hope these few tips help when and who to ask for help. Remember, you are not weak or a burden, you are strong and asking for help is a positive sign of strength.