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Crucible of Love

Ever feel like your love is being tested? We were designed to love and every relationship helps us understand ourselves.

Deandria Shaw


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The Moroccan desert has one of the hottest and driest terrains in the world. Temperatures soar to 124 degrees Fahrenheit during the summer. Yet, olive trees still manage to grow there, despite the rocky plateaus and deprivation of water. These special trees thrive under severe circumstances and produce some of the best olives in the world!

Much like the Moroccan olive trees, the maturing of our love can sometimes be difficult. So be patient with yourself. Sometimes we may feel as if our love is in a crucible and the heat is gradually being increased - Ouch! Our love for God and others is often refined through circumstances like a challenging work situation, an illness, the loss of employment, or even a faltering marriage. The scriptures assert, “Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all” (Psalms 34:19). The Son of God experienced immeasurable suffering for simply loving humankind. As he endured excruciating emotional and physical pain on the cross, he lovingly uttered, “Father forgive them for they know now what they do” (Luke 22:34). It was the height of love; it was unfettered love! In that heartrending statement, he revealed how much he loved even those who despised him. He wants us to experience that same life-giving love. We were designed to love (Shaw, 2021).

We are daily challenged to align ourselves with God’s will, the spirit of love. Our love is tested every time we interact with others. The harshness of a circumstance can bring us closer to or lead us further from God; it is our choice. And when you feel your relationship with God is stagnate or unproductive, check your level of love. King David, requested that God test him, he said, “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me and know my thoughts:” (Psalms 139:23). Some of the objectives of the crucible of love are as follow:

  1. It brings us closer to God and helps us understand His love better.
  2. It makes us rely on Him; we cannot manufacture love.
  3. It removes imperfections and reveals the quality of our love.
  4. It unifies all lovers of God; we become one in the spirit.

In Conclusion, when we ask to be like Christ we are asking God to help us love like Him. The scriptures reveal there are many attributes of genuine love (I Corinthians 13). The crucible challenges us to address our ego-centric propensities. Do we desire to love deeper? When we are open to God’s love, we are positioned to do the impossible. Genuine love is the mark of a true believer. “…Everyone that loveth is born of God and knoweth God” (I John 4:7-8). Perfect love will be the triumph of the true church.



The Holy Bible: King James Version. (2004). New York: American Bible Society.

Shaw, D. (2021, January 21). Designed to Love. Retrieved January 11, 2021, from

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