Sep 4, 2020 in Therapy
How to Cope with the Passing of Your Loved One During COVID 19
COVID 19 can delay the grieving process of your loved one that passed on. Below some tips on how to cope with it.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
- Be soft with yourself. Do not criticize or condemn yourself. You are going through a difficult phase in your life now. Be compassionate with yourself.
- Handle just the next half hour. A day at a time may be too long.
- Give yourself recognition that you have seen the half-hour through and encourage yourself to handle the next half hour. In that way, you can get through a day.
- There are often two processes that you need to work through after losing your loved one during COVID 19. The first one is the trauma and the second the lost. It is two different processes. Give yourself enough time to work through them.
- It is normal to have poor sleeping patterns while working through the trauma or loss. You can meditate to improve your sleeping pattern. If you do not have enough energy, you may go and seek medical help and request medication for sleep. Also, discuss dependency on medication with your Doctor. Anti-depressants are not addictive.
- Drink enough water.
- Follow your usual eating pattern and eat healthily. Force yourself to eat even though you are not hungry. Eat enough fruit and vegetables. Kiwi, apple, lettuce, cucumber, green beans, peas, broccoli, etc. are all healthy ways to fight depression.
- Get an anchor. Someone you can cling to, a higher authority. People can let you down or fail you because they do not understand/ engage with your intense emotions, thoughts, and actions.
- It is understandable if you used to pray, but you cannot now. You may even be angry at God. All this is normal, and you do not need to feel guilty about it. Be kind to yourself and stop criticizing or blaming yourself.
- In the short term, it is understandable if you want to blame, live as if nothing happened, suppress your feelings, or to run away from yourself. However, in the long run, it will catch up on you. Instead, try to face your circumstances little by little to work through it.
- Speak with one or two confidants about your situation. You can not speak to someone that is judgemental or wants to narrate their story while supposedly listening to you. It will traumatize you further. You are looking for someone that will patiently listen to you without any negative commentary or judgment. If you do not have such a person to speak to, consider in going to a therapist. No one can change your circumstances; however, the therapist can give you different perspectives on your trauma and will help you to look different from what you experience.
- When you find it challenging to go and speak with a therapist, you can have a daily plan to do something good for you. You might want to walk on the beach, listen to music, built a puzzle, paint, write your life story, work in the garden, or paint your home. Any creative action is precious when life sucks.
- Try to write about how you feel and what you think. Get a balance between feeling and thinking. Please show respect for your emotions and your thoughts and acknowledge them.
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Look for something in your life every day so that you can be thankful. Gratitude creates a spirit of benevolence and helps one to add value to other people's lives. It is an excellent anti-depressant