Aug 4, 2020 in Therapy

God Abba me through the pain after the suicide of our child

Our child, Leo, was 20 when he hung himself for no apparent reason on the cricket field on 20 February 2007.

How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

27 Mar

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

27 Mar

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

27 Mar

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

27 Mar

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

27 Mar

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

27 Mar

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

27 Mar

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

31 Mar

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

31 Mar

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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He was found by the caretaker of the field the next day. I do not wish this terrible news to my worst enemy. I wanted to stop living myself. For years afterward, I wanted to take my own life. However, I could never gather the guts to do it. I suffered from depression; my marriage started to disintegrate; I mocked my supervisors and challenged them to fire me. I wished someone would hijack me, rob me, and shoot me. I acted out my anger on the roads and viciously swore at other drivers using hand signs. The dreams emanating from my subconscious mind exposed the fact that I was not coping, that I was losing my grip on life. Unknowingly I was killing myself, wishing myself dead.

Initially, I kept a journal as a means to grow through this terrible experience. I knew it would be a powerful instrument in my healing. However, I now hope that the straightforward manner in which I share my story in this book can help others to cope with the death of a loved one. Whether it is due to suicide or otherwise, you may find the tips helpful. I wrote this story firstly as a mourning mother and secondly as a healer.

After the death of Leo, I asked many questions. Many of them were answered through my study of depression and what the illness entails. I concluded that Leo must have suffered from it. After the trauma, I wanted to lie down - literally and figuratively. It took all my energy to carry on one day after the other. I had no energy to LIVE. The focus of this book is to share the story of my slow journey towards healing, reclaiming my life, and ultimately towards fulfilling my calling.

This book can be useful to professionals who seek to understand the experiences of their clients and who wish to support clients with their journey after the suicide of a loved one. It is not to say that others will experience the same emotions. We dare not put people in a box. Everyone has an experience unique to themselves. However, the stories will tally.