Oct 30, 2020 in Counseling

How to stay on track?

Determine, Decision and Do..

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

16 Nov

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

16 Nov

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

16 Nov

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

16 Nov

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

16 Nov

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

16 Nov

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

16 Nov

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

16 Nov

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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How will you make sure you are staying on your track?

How do you stay motivated?

It happens for all of us many times that we made a really good plan and scheduled all the steps but after a couple of days being on track, we were not on our plan anymore and we lost our motivation.

You know why?

Because we were not prepared enough for our plan. We did not gather all the pieces we might need for our goal...

What are those pieces?

3 Ds : 1. Determine

2. Decision

3. Do

These 3 Ds are all necessary. We need to recognize what we want to do. Then we need to know why we want to do that. This why should come up with a good reason that could convince us to stay on our track. For instance, If we want to save our money for buying a car, we need to notice ourselves every single time while we are doing binge - shopping that I have a bigger plan for my money.

The last item is " DO" which is related to our action. If you don't spend enough time on making the decison based on your compelling reason then your action will be temporary. Then you will lose your motivation and your committment really soon. If you go back to your failed experience, you will see that you ignored the "decision" step. First you determined what you want to do then immediately you jumped into doing the action, without even thinking about the appropriate reason.

Let's try that out and see how it works for you. It is simple but it needs some practice to understand that the decision making is the main key for success.

Lets feel free to sit in a one-on-one session with me. By working together, I would be able to guide you to clear up your mind and break your current pattern in order to build up an amazing new pattern for you.