Therefore, as my child’s nature (Genetics) is inherited, then as the parent, how do I go about to balance being the good parent (Nurturing), while being a loving parent (Nurturing)?
British author, Matthew Ridley’s “The Agile Gene How Nature Turns on Nurture” proposes, environmental-factors (Familial nurturing) influence the child’s genetic (Nature) behavior: Our behavior (Genes) react in accordance with the familial environment (Loving parent).
“Authoritarian, Strict Parenting (Eastern) Vs. Permissive (Western): Which is Better?” [1]
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Eastern
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Western
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Advantage
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Advantage
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In a recent PISA international standardized test, children in China ranked on top in all three fields (reading, math, and science) and by a wide margin:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Programme_for_International_Student_Assessment;
Within the participating American students, Asians performed the best:
http://nces.ed.gov/pubs2011/2011004_1.pdf
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Children who are raised in the culture of permissive parenting grow up with the ability to think creatively and be innovative.
Children being free to pursue what they want; they are able to think outside the box. It is this culture that produced Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and Steve Jobs.
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Disadvantage
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Disadvantage
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Many children who are raised by authoritarian parents show signs of psychological problems like depression and anxiety, and some even resort to suicide.
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Children who are coddled and overprotected become weaklings and unable to handle challenges and hard work needed to survive in a tough world.
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Clearly, you influence your child’s adult. Your child’s inherited genetics might control a natural talent for reading or mathematics or ballet or crime. But, you as the good-parent nurturing your child’s nature will help determine their adulthood success and joy.
The parent’s nature and nurturing ability is already determined by life’s nurturing of her / his nature, through attachment, parent’s, their parenting, childhood, puberty, adulthood, relationships, emotional maturity, and personal resilience.
Understandably, the new parent may or may not understand the inherent nature of nurturing to be a good (Loving) parent.
George Stack MACA ©
Counselor and Psychotherapist
Email: [email protected]
www.stackcounselling.com.au.
Thank you for your help!