Sep 1, 2021 in Life Coaching
How to be a GOOD (Loving) Parent?
Clearly, you influence your child’s adult. Your child’s inherited genetics might control a natural talent for crime, or.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Parenthood opens our minds and emotions to the internal dilemma of nature versus nurture. Mum may ask herself if her little treasure’s love of words is because she lay with him every night, while he read to her or because the grade 2 teacher had him lead the reading program in front of the class. Dad may quietly believe his little man is a successful mathematician because of his genes or because he helped him with his homework.
Nature versus nurture is an unresolvable row. Some believe nature (Genetics) is always in play. Others believe it’s the familial environment (Nurture) that ultimately determines the child’s uniqueness. Still, others trust both nature and nurture to interact in defining the child’s emotions, intelligence, personality, and physicality.
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Therefore, as my child’s nature (Genetics) is inherited, then as the parent, how do I go about to balance being the good parent (Nurturing), while being a loving parent (Nurturing)?
British author, Matthew Ridley’s “The Agile Gene How Nature Turns on Nurture” proposes, environmental-factors (Familial nurturing) influence the child’s genetic (Nature) behavior: Our behavior (Genes) react in accordance with the familial environment (Loving parent).
“Authoritarian, Strict Parenting (Eastern) Vs. Permissive (Western): Which is Better?” 
In a recent PISA international standardized test, children in China ranked on top in all three fields (reading, math, and science) and by a wide margin:
Within the participating American students, Asians performed the best:
Children who are raised in the culture of permissive parenting grow up with the ability to think creatively and be innovative.
Children being free to pursue what they want; they are able to think outside the box. It is this culture that produced Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and Steve Jobs.
Many children who are raised by authoritarian parents show signs of psychological problems like depression and anxiety, and some even resort to suicide.
Children who are coddled and overprotected become weaklings and unable to handle challenges and hard work needed to survive in a tough world.
How to be a good (Loving) parent?
Clearly, you influence your child’s adult. Your child’s inherited genetics might control a natural talent for reading or mathematics or ballet or crime. But, you as the good-parent nurturing your child’s nature will help determine their adulthood success and joy.
The parent’s nature and nurturing ability is already determined by life’s nurturing of her / his nature, through attachment, parent’s, their parenting, childhood, puberty, adulthood, relationships, emotional maturity, and personal resilience.
Understandably, the new parent may or may not understand the inherent nature of nurturing to be a good (Loving) parent.
George Stack MACA ©
Counselor and Psychotherapist