Jun 21, 2020 in Therapy
Is Anxiety good or bad?
Anxiety is one of the most common emotional state experienced by all humans. How it affect and shape our life?
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Anxiety is a feeling which everyone of us have experienced in their life at one or the other time. Some people experience it more intensely than others. Similarly some can use it creatively to increase their productivity while others just feel crippled by it. As I mentioned in my previous post I do not agree when some people call it a negative emotion. It’s just another emotion like happiness, joy, jealousy,anger etc.If one can learn to use his or her anxiety properly, it can become a catalyst to expedite their performance. But since we don’t understand it well we adopt a victim role and feel locked in when we are anxious. We lose our ability to think rationally and make use of our cognitive capabilities fully. If we look from the evolutionary point of view, we see anxiety’s role is to save a person in dangerous situations but when the imaginary or perceived dangerous situations appear so real that that our body starts acting physiologically as it was in a real danger, then it becomes pathological or an illness. If the rush we experience in this state is directed towards a constructive direction, one can perform feats which will even amaze him or her, but on the contrary when it goes down the downward spiral , even simplest tasks appear like huge blocks which eventually make us lose our self confidence and self belief.So the question is how do we deal with this emotion positively and use it for our growth and benefit. One of the proven techniques which is also being used clinically is the practice of mindfulness.But do note , it’s not a magic pill and effort has to be put in to train our minds. When we are in an anxiety provoking situation , we focus on our physical experiences that we are having at that moment rather than imagining and focussing on the worst outcome that is going to happen. Believe it or not but we DO have the choice to think the either way. When we focus on our physical experiences....racing heart beat, sweating, tremors, giddiness, feeling weak, feeling nauseous, etc, we do it gradually, focussing on one symptom at a time. And as a pond water which has gotten muddy after someone has disturbed it, the murkiness will settle gradually and what we get is the clean water. Similarly just by focussing on the restless physical experiences , they will soon die down and you we will experience the calmness. So the only thing we are doing here is just observing. Note that we are not actively trying to calm ourself, it will happen automatically, only thing that needs to be done is focussing on those physical experiences or symptoms and not thinking anything else. It is actually easier in that state of mind because all your mental energy is focussed on them at that time.The more you practice mindfulness, easier it becomes to apply it at the time of need, so try to make mindfulness practice a daily routine of your life.