Jun 27, 2020 in Coaching
The Value of Authentic Leadership
We see the evidence of inauthentic leadership every day but what is the true value of leadership that is authentic
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
The lunatic is in the hall, The lunatics are in my hall
The paper holds their folded faces to the floor
And every day the paper boy brings more
-from the song “Brain Damage” by Pink Floyd
We see the evidence of inauthentic leadership every day; from presidents and prime ministers to industry captains and influencers. Decisions based on fake news, false suppositions, faulty logic and poor reasoning, narratives based on prejudiced thinking, hidden agendas and bad intentions. A cesspool of murky and destructive thoughts, actions and emotions.
We also see truly authentic and responsible leadership behavior, sometimes even from the unlikeliest of places; ordinary people doing extraordinary things, people who have very little themselves helping others in even more desperate situations, common citizens leading by example and business leaders acting with empathy and compassion.
The consequences of either of these behaviors are enormous. Businesses are broken or built, careers get destroyed or flourish, lives are upended or enriched and spirits are crushed or uplifted. And yet it is an individual choice. As leaders or even as not one, we get to choose whether we want to be an authentic leader or not. This choice we make, makes us an agent of positive change or a bringer of doom. The trick is to choose wisely.
So what does an authentic leader look like?
-someone who knows the difference they can make to the lives of the people who expect them to show the way
-someone who is acutely aware of their influence and power and refuse to let that intoxicate them, instead harnessing the power and influence to positively impact the lives of their followers
-someone whose every decision is in line with the vision both for themselves as well as the people they lead that is firmly rooted in shared values.
-someone who knows that they do not have all the answers and is not afraid to show that. This act of making themselves vulnerable and open to learning is perhaps the most important characteristic of an authentic leader.
-someone who can quell the anxiety and distress among those being led through displaying empathy, understanding, a sense of calm and competence.
-someone who is ready and willing to take the responsibility for stepping up and putting their hand up to be counted and one that is willing to make personal sacrifices for the greater good.
Crises come and they go but authentic leadership stays on forever both in the minds of people as well as the pages of history. At the end of the day, nobody remembers the events that took place but they will always remember the people who made a difference with their behavior and leadership skills.