May 27, 2023 in Life Coaching

Conformity

How much conformity should we strive for?

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

17 Jan

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

17 Jan

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

17 Jan

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

17 Jan

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

17 Jan

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

17 Jan

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

17 Jan

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

17 Jan

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Conformity? Or not?

Back in the day, (in the 80’s) “Conformity” was a dirty word. It was the last thing “you” wanted to be…I was into the whole Punk Rock scene. I was the girl in a white tee shirt, and combat pants, the one with safety pins in her ears, one side of my hair was shaved and the other was long, my makeup was…well…theatrical and whose father was very fond of saying “No daughter of mine is going out looking like that!”

I did my share of slam-dancing, listening to: The Sex Pistols, Black Flag, Dead Kennedy’s, and the like. If my parents said one thing, I did the other. An example, “We don’t want that boy darkening our driveway!” So, I told “that boy” to wait for me at the end of the driveway.” I am surprised that they still talk to me.

Some people thought I was cool…while other’s saw right through me.

The truth is I was just a messed-up kid, trying to find her way. I eventually did, but my rebellious streak is still there sometimes. I still have times when I must have adventure and an adrenaline rush. Most of the time now-a-days I conform but only to a point…if someone tries to control me, I instantly do the opposite of what they say to take control back. Ever been there?

Some conformity is good and helps us to fit into “polite society.” But…still I think for myself and raised my children to do the same. That is crucial these days and in this political climate.

My rebellion has changed, I speak my mind, try to be kind and positive and I try to give people a voice when they don’t or can’t have one. I whisper that “you can” when others shout that they can’t. I will always rebel when there is hatred, sheep mentality, suffocation of free will, and narcissists.