Mar 24, 2023 in Life Coaching
To Serve or Be Served
Is it better to serve or be served?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
To Serve or Be Served
I think that this is an interesting question…Someone once said to me that there are two kinds of people: Those who are served and those who serve and “you always want to be the one who is served.” I was thinking about that today because my Mom treated me to a pedicure. I know it’s a little strange that I feel this way but I always feel a little uncomfortable when I have a spa treatment, because I feel bad for the women giving me a pedicure. Here’s why, they are “serving” me.
Most of the women to whom I have expressed that feeling say things like: “Well, they are getting paid for it.” Or “This is a job that would not pay much where they are from and that they are making ‘bank’ here.” Maybe it’s “white guilt” on my part, I’m not sure…I just think about how tired and crampy that their hands might be by the end of the day. Maybe I am overthinking…or am I? There are so many people who are homeless and hungry right now and I am getting a foot massage.
Hmm, I have never been that comfortable being “served” and I have thought that I should be a server. I always thought serving was a privilege. It is a task done out of love and kindness. To be of service to another is the highest form of caring that I can think of…but not for money, only because of what it gives another. What if each one of us found a way to perform a service for another person, each day? It doesn’t have to be a big one, but it could be. Just a little something that makes someone smile.
Here is an example of what I call “sneaky” service. When I worked for the schools (yes, another example from school), I was really poor after my divorce and the head cook knew it, if there was food left over after feeding the kids, she would give me a leftover food item. She helped me because she was poor too. She knew that I saved all of the “good food” for my kids when they came for my week with them. It was a kindness that could have cost her, her job. Once for some reason, that I don’t remember now, I had an extra $20.00 and I put it in an envelope with her name typed on it. I took it to the office and asked them to give it to her without saying who it was from. I knew she was proud, like me and would not have accepted it from me. I didn’t tell the office staff what was in it. I know she got it. I hope that it helped her in some way.
We served each other the best that we could. I will never forget her and the kindness that she extended to me. Some people like to be served and that’s okay, it’s a job creator. Some like to serve and that’s okay too, so long as you don’t sacrifice too much. A word of warning though sometimes people get nasty when you try to serve them so know your “audience” and make sure you are serving for the right reasons and sometimes it’s best done anonymously, for no credit or recognition, just a labor of love.