Sep 26, 2022 in Life Coaching

In the Middle

In the "middle" can be comforting, so can playing it safe but this is the difference between existing and truly living!

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

23 May

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

23 May

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

22 May

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

22 May

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

23 May

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

23 May

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

23 May

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

18 May

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

18 May

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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In the Middle

Ever been in the middle? It is not an easy place to be. If you are on top, “everyone loves a winner.” If you are on the bottom, “everyone cheers for the underdog.” So, what happens when you are in the middle? If you earn more than most you are considered upper class, if you earn less than most then you qualify for aide, but what if you earn enough to get by without much leftover? You are in the middle (class). So, what do you do if you are in the middle? When you are in the middle of an argument, it never feels good, what is even worse is when you are mediating between two people who are having problems. In that same vein, everyone wants to cut out the middle man or woman. It seems like when you are in the middle, you lose. For example, if you are in the middle class, you do not make enough to get tax breaks that the upper 1 % get, you also do not qualify for special programs that the poor get and in fact you are the group who pays for those.

When people talk about being the middle child they also lose. They were not the first born nor the last, so they do not get the rewards of being the oldest or the coddling that the “baby” of the family gets. I have been told by people who experienced being the middle child that they feel like they never quite fit in.

Then there are in the middle of social group classifications or cliques. You are not the nerds, the brains, or the popular kids or the jocks or the stoners. You are just sort of “there” floating along. You get “C’s” in class, do not really accel in sports or have the best clothes you are not a trendsetter nor are you a rebel. Most of the time you coast along hoping no one really pays attention to you and they do not. You fly under the radar of most people.

Then this mediocracy follows you into the world of work. You do your work and get by. You do not get fired but you also do not get promoted. Then you save up your money and buy a house, that is not the best or the worst. You do not take chances or venture out too much. Being in the middle is a blah existence. The good news is that if you are not happy about your middle person status, there is a way out and I can help you! All you need to do is reach out.

Being in the middle is being comfortable, nothing that happens is overly exciting. You just go through the motions of life, and it is safe. Did you ever have a dream for yourself or a passion that you wanted to focus on but were afraid to try? Do you ever get tired of being in the middle? We can sit down and talk about finding a way out, to reaching out and grabbing life with both hands and really living! Not just going through the motions! I can help you get back on the path of finding out what makes you feel alive and how to set goals to make it happen! Pleas reach out today!

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