Jul 21, 2022 in Life Coaching
How music can shape us
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
One of my favorite writers and singers of all time is Bob Dylan. His writing and music has helped to shape my life and some of my outspoken-ness. He wrote during a very tumultuous time in the history of the United States (and here we are again). I doubt that my kids will read this, so I think I’m Okay…I spent the first part of my life rebelling against my parents ideals and now I’m rebelling against my kids’ (the circle of life? Lol). “Bob” almost always has a song that fits my mood, and he is especially good to listen to in the fall or on rainy days. My favorites right now are:
- Every Grain of Sand
- Workingman’s Blues #2
- House Carpenter
- Lily, Rosemary and the Jack of Hearts
- When The Deal goes down
- Tangled up in Blue
- With God on our side
- Idiot Wind
- To make you feel my love
- Only a Hobo
- Nettie Moore
- The man in me
- It’s all over now baby blue
I could go on and on! The song that I believe to be the most relevant right now is “With God on our side”. If you haven’t heard the song, it is about how in times of unrest and war that in essence, each side of the conflict believes that God is on their side. To me this is an interesting concept which also brings up another idea that is not new to me, “What if we are all are just trying to do the best we can?” For real! I will lay out what it could look like:
- Someone cuts me off in traffic
Response 1: Swear and pound the dashboard
Response 2: Turn up your music and sing
Response 3: Decide that there must be an emergency, or they wouldn’t be rushing around.
- I am in line at the grocery store, and someone is just chatting with the cashier, so it seems like it is taking forever for the line to move forward:
Response 1: Start loudly sighing and shifting from foot to foot.
Response 2: Remark out loud that some of us are in a hurry.
Response 3: Think to “myself” that maybe the person is lonely and in need of human contact.
- I am in line at the pharmacy and the person ahead of me is talking to the cashier and is clearly angry and saying all kinds of mean things to the person helping them in a loud voice.
Response 1: Do nothing when it is my turn and pretend that the person before didn’t do anything hurtful.
Response 2: Tell myself that the person behind the counter is trained to handle angry customers.
Response 3: Tell the person helping me that, they did not deserve it and that I hope things get better and I know they are short staffed.
- My husband decides to organize my area of the closet
Response 1: Think to myself, “How dare he? I like how it was arranged!” I confront him saying exactly what I had been thinking and we fight about it.
Response 2: Say nothing about it and keep my thoughts to myself and let the resentments fester.
Response 3: Take a deep breath, wait a few minutes and think of an alternative reason for why he rearranged things, like he was innocently trying to help me find my things better by placing like items together.
Those are a few examples of how slowing down and waiting out acting on our thoughts can help change interactions. They are all also examples of how certain musical artists can point out a collective view of how things are in society and how they can be.