May 18, 2022 in Life Coaching
Nemesis dogs is a story that has the aim of getting "us" to pause before we react to something that may not be what it seems
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
I have a dog named Barney, he is a little Terrier mix ( and there's a saying that people and their dogs look alike-well that's true in our case, we both have similar "hair": blond, curly and coarse). Anyways, I walk him everyday and there are certain houses that harbor dogs he doesn't like. As far as I know there is no reason for his dislike.
When we get close to the houses where his nemesis live, his body language and posture changes. His body stiffens, he starts to strain and pull on his leash and harness. His hair bristles and his breathing changes, he starts a low growl-from deep inside him, and gears up before he even knows if they will be out in their yard...I wonder if there are people in your life or on the fringes of it, that cause this type of reaction in you?
You know, those moments when our brain or a voice inside our heads says "Oh here she (or he) comes..." Your body language changes, YOU start to amp up, hold your breath or start to breathe quicker, because you just "know" what's going to happen next? I think we have all had this experience or something like it.
The thing is...we really don't know what is going to happen. It could be better or worse than we think. Our response to the nemesis or assumed threat, can actually cause what we don't want to have happen, happen. Our brains try to predict what "might" happen so it can protect our bodies. Even if the threat or the "bad" thing isn't happening in the "now"...we get ready-it's kind of a genetic throwback to dealing with uncertainty, the unknown, or what could happen.
The good news is that with a little work and guidance, we can change our responses. We can learn to pause. We can wait and see what is REALLY going on right now and tailor our response to THAT. So maybe we won't "bark" when there might not be something to bark about. If you would like to know more, schedule an appointment with me today and turn your growl into a tail wag!