Aug 5, 2020 in Life Coaching
Self-Help & It's Aiding Components.
The more you learn about what makes you happy and steps to stay that way, the better your overall health will be.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
What is self-help?
Self-help is a general term that describes everything you do deliberately for your mental, physical, and emotional well-being. As simple as it sounds, many of us pay little attention to self-care. Therefore ‘deliberately' is one of the most important words in the definition. You need to be conscious of your well-being before you can achieve true self-help. Self-help is built on your actions in a way. It starts from the simple acts like not checking emails at night when you know it affects your sleep and extends to more important decisions like changing bad habits or dealing with high anxiety.
Why is it important?
Self-help involves actively setting out to do something which is good for your individual needs and desires. It can take many forms such as regular, good sleep, eating healthy food, meditating, and relaxing, doing something creative, getting into nature, or making good decisions.
Even though self-help actions may seem simple they are essential to maintaining a healthy lifestyle and replenishing yourself, making you more effective and energetic. Plus, doing things that make you feel better physically and mentally will help increase your confidence and self-esteem.
Self-help is not selfish. It helps you maintain a healthy relationship with yourself and creating time for yourself each day is vital for overall wellness.
Self-help can keep you healthy as it includes physical activities like exercise, also just taking time out of your day to do something you enjoy can help you to de-stress. Self-help can help you take a break from technology, and recharge and unwind, which is so important especially now that the whole world is in distress. It can also help you manage physical or mental health symptoms to live life as fully as possible.
It is important for your family and friends too. If you are not at your best you cannot give your best either. Friends and family will also learn from you, so setting boundaries to take care of yourself shows them that they also need to put themselves first and not overwork, overextend, or ignore problems they may have.
How does self-help work?
Self-help is based on interpersonal interaction, but not as a form of daily conversation. Psychotherapy is a method of treatment with clear and specific goals, and discussions aim to eliminate or alleviate the suffering caused by mental disorders or other problems in life. Studies have shown that self-help It is an effective treatment for depression, among other things. Conversation assistance is provided by many different groups of professionals. Talking to someone you trust is often greatly beneficial; however, this actual treatment can only be received by someone that can help you reach your goals.
There are many different approaches used in self-help, for example, the type of practice affects the viewpoint through which the problem is discussed. Depression can be viewed, for example, from the perspective of childhood experiences or thinking patterns of depressed people. This view affects the angle chosen on how people try to tackle a problem. so different approaches often complement each other and can be used together at the same time.
Why do we resort to self-help?
Self-help treatment has some advantages over personal long-term advice from experts. It is convenient and cheap, and you can do it according to your time and when it suits you. "Self-help options can be very valuable," says Joyce Walter, a mutual relations advisor based in Tunbridge Wells.
Self-help books and computer advice can expand your knowledge and understanding of yourself. Their use can be beneficial while on the waiting list to see a counselor and after we have learned the best techniques to use. But self-help therapy is not always the ideal solution. Some people need ongoing help to aid the self-help techniques they are using. Self-help treatment is generally suitable for people with mild to moderate mental health issues.
Why is motivation Important when using self-help?
Self-help has a great impact on a person and one of its most important and effective partners is self-motivation. Motivation is a person or thing that motivates you. By searching for motives in a person, you can go deeper into understanding yourself and understanding your personal motivations that make you do something whether it be good or bad. Every person has a great message within them. This message always helps them to get up early to start the journey of life in his or her day. Motivation is never left out of self-help techniques. Without this, you cannot achieve true help of any kind. People are motivated in different ways. For some it may be building their family, achieve happiness, or perhaps helping others. Motivation is the basis of a person’s life because most actions will go towards improving their quality in life. Observing everything from your own point of view often helps you to understand the real motives that motivate you to do any action. The person who puts his family at the top of his values finds that all his actions, thinking and areas that surround him revolve around family. Whoever places the job and work at the top of the pyramid, finds that most of his actions are built around work.
It is also not hidden from one of the major roles that self-direction plays as a basic component of self- help. self-direction is a personality trait that refers to self-determination, that is, the ability to organize and adapt behavior to the requirements of a situation to achieve the goals and personal values chosen. It is one of the dimensions of "personality" Mentioned in the Cloninger model of mood and personality stock. Cloninger described self-direction as a "willpower", defined as "the metaphorical concept of describing the extent to which a person has come to define the imaginary self as a complete, purposeful, integrated individual, rather than a set of interactive, disorganized motives Cloninger’s research has found that decreased self-direction is a major common characteristic of overall personal disorder. Self- direction is conceptually related to the position of control. That is, the decline of self-direction is related to the position of external control, while the height of self-direction is related to the position of internal control. The Five Personality Elements, Self-Directing is strongly and inversely related to nervous stimulus and positively strong association. And in the end, we come to the most important thing of self- help, which is self-knowledge.
What is self-knowledge?
One natural and popular answer to this question is that it is knowledge of what is sometimes called your ‘true self’. This is what is referred to as self-knowledge in the everyday sense. On this way of thinking, your true self is the real ‘you’, and is made up of your true character, values, desires, emotions, and beliefs. It is what you are really like, as distinct from what other people, or indeed you, believe you are like. The true self is not the self as it appears to others or to itself but the self as it really is. The search for self-knowledge is, you may well think, the search for your true self.
This way of thinking assumes, of course, that there is such a thing as the ‘true self’ and that is something which some people have questioned. Leaving this issue to one side for the moment, another feature of the ordinary way of thinking about self-knowledge is the assumption that self-knowledge is not easy to come by. To have knowledge of your true self would be a genuine ‘cognitive’ or intellectual achievement, and one which requires time and effort. And once you think of self- knowledge as effortful, there is a natural further question which arises: what is the point or value of self- knowledge? What good does it do you to have it and what would you lose by not having it?It is often taken for granted that self-knowledge is worth having.
Some people believe that self- knowledge is valuable because, to put it crudely, you will be happier with it than without it. But that is not obvious; maybe there are some truths about yourself you would be happier and better off not knowing. Perhaps, in that case, we need to look elsewhere to explain the value of self-knowledge. You might think of Socrates’ suggestion that self-knowledge is needed to live meaningfully or the related idea that you need self-knowledge to live ‘authentically’, that is, in a way that is true to yourself, to your true self. Whether such explanations of the value of self-knowledge are correct sounds like an excellent question for a philosopher of self-knowledge.
Everything discussed in this article intertwine to give you great outcomes through self-help techniques. It is always a good idea to educate yourself and find ways that will be there for you when others cannot be. This is what self-help provides. Once you learn the techniques you will always have help right by your side no matter what is going on. The No Prescription Psychologist Team teaches these techniques among other things that will help you help yourself in the end. We want everybody to live a happy and stress-free life!