May 19, 2020 in Life Coaching
What is holding you back from achieving your full potential?
This article will give you an idea of what could possibly be holding you back from becoming the best version of yourself!
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
What are limiting beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are things that constrain us in some type of way. These beliefs can be about you, other people, or the world. Limiting beliefs can hold you back from making the best decisions, keep you blinded to present opportunities, and prevent you from uncovering or accepting your own special gifts or talents. It will appear that you are always consumed with only the negative aspects of your circumstances in life and make it hard to seek the positive.
Hardest thing about these beliefs are we may not have any idea how to identify them or may not think we have any making some limiting beliefs difficult to pinpoint.
Where do limiting beliefs come from?
Limiting beliefs usually stem from childhood based on our own personal experiences and how our parents responded to us during these times rather negative or positive.
For example bad grades are usually accompanied by punishment, and a kind gesture like leaving an apple on the teachers desk is followed by rewards. With that, a belief can be so deeply embedded that you can continue to hold on to them and actually begin believing these things which help form your core beliefs and values.
What kinds of beliefs do we have?
Beliefs can be broken down into three very distinct parts.
- Psychological Rules- the foundations of each of your beliefs. They probably shouldn’t be classified as beliefs, but rather as rules that support your beliefs. However, it’s important to discuss them here because they will help you to better understand the beliefs that are currently directing your decisions and actions.
- Global Beliefs-Global beliefs are generalizations you make about things, about people, and about life. You will, for instance, believe X and you won’t believe Y. You believe X because you have made specific assumptions about X and Y that make them out to be a certain way. Global beliefs are assumptions you make that begin with:
- “I am…”
- “Life is…”
- “People are…”
- Convictions-Convictions are the strongest beliefs and are often immune to logic. They are beliefs that have the highest unwavering certainty, commitment, and dedication , Convictions are beliefs that you have built over a lifetime that have a tremendous amount of references supporting them. Each of these references supports this belief and build the foundations of your conviction. Moreover, the amount of emotion, time, energy, and thought you have invested in these beliefs over a lifetime makes them virtually indestructible.
Personal convictions are a special set of our beliefs, that determine (for you) what you believe to be right and wrong. These beliefs are very solid and usually nothing or no one can change it. It’s important to note that beliefs are not facts.
However, deeply ingrained beliefs can indeed be mistaken as facts. These beliefs are often nothing more than conclusions you have drawn based on your childhood experiences.
If you constantly heard you’re not good enough, you’re not smart enough, or you’re not pretty enough you may actually start to believe and carry those things around internalizing them.
Effects limiting beliefs have
Once you’ve reached adulthood and carry these negative beliefs along with you it creates a rocky foundation to navigate through life. These beliefs can complicate relationships, friendships, work life, and social life. You may pass up opportunities that are right in front of you because you have made yourself believe you don’t qualify for the job. What’s even worse is when these beliefs go unrecognized and manifest for so long it’s almost irreversible.
How to overcome limiting beliefs
So here are 5 easy steps for overcoming limiting beliefs:
- Identify the source of the belief
If you can pinpoint the belief it will become easier to eliminate it from your life.
- Identify the reason for the belief and evaluate the consequences
Ask yourself, has this belief really been beneficial to my life and where can I make changes.
- Infuse the truth into your beliefs
Find things that are facts to support what you believe instead of relying on your own opinions.
- Adopt NEW and EMPOWERING beliefs
These beliefs should cancel out those old beliefs! Turn these new beliefs into a new habit.
- Strengthen your beliefs
Make those beliefs strong enough to stand on them
Don't let those negative beliefs limit you anymore!