Jul 29, 2021 in Life Coaching
How to handle Grief
If you’re grieving a loss of a loved-one they want you to show kindness towards yourself.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
How to handle Grief
First and foremost, consider the fact that you can never overcome a grief, all you can do is handle it with awareness so that you can reduce the extreme effects it can cause on you. Grief never ends it changes it’s form, remember when you successfully control your emotions and effectively engage normally in day to day life than even that has its own pain too. It can arrive as gently as happy memories or as harshly as a nightmare.
Sometimes it caresses you soothingly and sometimes it can give you pain of thousand needles piercing your body at the same time.
Remind yourself that just because you behave normally or some one thinks you should be over it or you think it’s high time for you to get over your grief doesn’t mean the thoughts the pain the emotions are not present. Grief has layers like an onion and when the layers are pealed of it can make your eyes filled with the tears of sadness, although that doesn’t mean you are week it just means you are passing though a phase an episode of grief.
There is nothing to pin point as external or internal factor in particular to trigger those episodes within you literally anything or anyone can remind you of a person you have lost and can send you on a downward spiral. One doesn’t need to be strong or mature to handle it actually the first step is to accept it as it is.
Forgive others for not understanding your situation.
Find yourself a feel good place to cocoon yourself during those episodes where you can be comfortable expressing and embracing your grief. If you can meditate on your thoughts and observe them as a spectator that will connect you to higher consciousness and will let you feel the oneness and universal love, because remember grief basically is a form of love, all the love you could have expressed or you could not express takes the form of grief therefore once you tap into universal consciousness you will be able to feel the love and on the next step you will be able to give and receive Love freely and that will help you transmute the pain effectively.
Don’t try to comfort yourself by harmful substances or temporary fixes, even when you think pain is unbearable because this method will only make the process harder. Do not attach your self to a possession or person as a comfort cushion because that actually is not helping you to experience grief fully but it’s just storing it in a different form and once that will be gone it will only double the amount of pain if you actually want to process it you need to feel it fully otherwise it can get stored and create blocks on your energy field and manifest in the form of disease.
In some form Grief stays with you forever in some form you need to choose you need to choose how to let it share the space within you as a flower to help you heal or as a weed you want to kill.
I hope this has helped
Wishing you all endless joy
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