Apr 28, 2020 in Life Coaching

Power of choice

Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.

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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??

My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help

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Caligirl

12 Sep

Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him

Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?

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Huttslady

12 Sep

Help

We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?

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Caligirl

12 Sep

Idk what to do

My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them

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Ashleigh

12 Sep

Lost and confused at a crossroads

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling

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Diya Singh

12 Sep

How can I get my teen to confide in me

I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this

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Mommy22

12 Sep

What do I do?

I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.

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John Hayward

12 Sep

I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.

He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?

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Martha Diaz

12 Sep

Shared custody

It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?

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Christie

12 Sep

What should I do?

My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD

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Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. Viktor E. Frankl

My Story is a story of hope when faced with despair and courage when the odds are stacked up against you. I experienced humiliation, challenges, injustice and the brutality experienced growing up in the apartheid South Africa. I was born into a life of inequality and hardship. I know the first-hand pain inflicted by racism, but also know the joy that comes through the power of forgiveness, Whenever I speak at conferences I tell that I am not a victim for apartheid but a victor. I am not what happened to me, I am becoming. From what I experienced I have learned, "How humiliation CAN MAKE you a Great Leader".

What is it that you have experienced in life that has caused you to be stuck? Some people are stuck with their script that has been handed down to them. They were told that they will never amount to anything and they have accepted that as their future. Maybe you are stuck with Self Limiting Beliefs-or saying to yourself I just cant achieve.

I had to dig deep and challenge the story that was handed down to me. I faced the brutality of a dehumanising regime. As a result of the adversity and being imprisoned and tortured. I formulated a life philosophy which is

Face it- adversity and this made me resilient and have a Can Do mindset.

Embrace it:- embrace the fact that I was born for greatness

Defy it- refused to accept the limitations imposed upon me because of what people said about me and my future.

and Conquer it. - I now live a life abundance with no limitations and the ONLY limitation I have are the ones that I set for myself. I had to make a choice to believe what the systems said or believed in myself? As that great song goes, You are beautiful, no matter that they say, words can't bring me down."

Sticks and stones may break my bones but silly words won't hurt me. I defied the odds because I believe in myself and I believed that something inside me so strong and I knew I was going to make it.

Maybe you have become your own worst enemy by listening to your inner critic. Do you know that you have greatness within you?

Come fly with me, Let's fly