Jun 1, 2020 in Life Coaching
Letting Go of Grudges: Forgiveness, Letting Go & Moving On
How to forgive, not necessarily forget and move on so that you can lead a more productive and healthier life.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
We have all been there. Someone "does you dirty", and you just can't get over it. It keeps you up at night. The outrage. The audacity! It's all about the principal. This person was supposed to be trustworthy and you though you had finally found someone you could rely on. They were a friend, a lover or maybe even family. This feeling that we cannot shake is so overwhelming we start to feel ourselves fill with rage at the thought of what this person has done, and this is a natural reaction. At what point though does it start to become incredibly unhealthy and extremely detrimental to our psyche? Almost immediately this happens.
Anger is a completely normal reaction, and we've all been thourouly "pissed off" at one time or another. In most instances this passes quickly and without the need of emergency intervention. For some people it's not that easy and it's actually seemingly impossible for them to process anger in a healthy way. First you'll see that they tend to explode with rage, hate and outrage. Slowly though, that initial stage of hate will burrow down deep and embed itself in your psyche.
Carrying around all of this negativity, even if it's seemingly burried away and not hurting anyone, it is incredibly unhealthy. This negativity, resentment and anger festers and ultimately impacts every judgment we make about everyone else's character for the rest of our lives. It hinders us from letting people in, GOOD people, because we have been trained by this emotional baggage to never trust anyone ever again.
The idea and ultimate goal here is to forgive what has happened to you in the past. don't forget about it as we do need to learn from the experiences of our past both good and bad. There is always a reason to forgive, even if it's simply because you need to move on and heal yourself. We deserve that. As human beings we deserve to move on and to not only heal, but to grow and become stronger, wiser and hopefully enlightened. We deserve the chance to make new aqaintences, develop new relationships and to Just. Let. Go. Living in and holding a grudge will only make your mind, body and soul ill.
So the next time you find yourself the victim of someone else's wrong doing, put some conscious effort into finding a reason to forgive the actions of this person. Only to the extent that you are able to carry on with your life in a positive way, not just accept it and let it happen again. This is a whole other issue, being a doormat for everyone to walk all over.
Fee yourself from the wrong doings and bad times of your past. Allow yourself the luxury of moving on and leading a better adjusted life.