Jul 30, 2020 in Career Coaching
When You Stop At 'No' and Don't Ask 'WHY'
"No" is a strongly negative word. Don't limit yourself by that, ask WHY instead.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
What happens when we receive the answer "NO" when applying for a job, asking for a raise, or applying for a loan?
An article on Psychology Today by Andrew Newberg M.D. and Mark Waldman says that hearing or seeing the word "NO" releases dozens of stress-releasing hormones and neurotransmitters which disrupt the normal functioning of the brain. And lingering on "no's" and other negative words can damage key structures that regulate memory, feelings, and emotions.
Hearing "NO" in response to a question or application is something everyone, everywhere has and will experience throughout their lives. Asking your parents for an increase in your allowance when you were young, applying to your first job, asking for a promotion, applying for a home loan... No is an inevitable part of each of our lives.
If no's are inevitable, what can we do to combat their negative effects, both emotional and mental?
I once heard a very wise man say:
"People stop at NO without asking WHY"
I think the solution is simple. Far too often when we receive the word no, we make that the conclusion of the story. How many times have we turned back and asked why after someone said "NO" to us? Why can I not get a raise? Why did I get declined for the loan? Why am I not eligible for that promotion?
By stopping at "NO", we are limiting ourselves to the lessons, growth, and pivoting moments that happen when we get denied or declined. I put to you, that if we did not stop at "NO" but rather sought out to discover why, even if we are fearful, we have the opportunity to learn from each experience, restrain the effects that the word no has on our lives, and move forward with an even better outcome than if we just accepted the word.
What happens if you were just a few chores away from receiving an increase in allowance, or maybe your manager wanted to see how'd you react to a no when you asked for a promotion, or maybe you were just a few credit points short of receiving the loan? There are so many lessons to learn from receiving no in a situation that you only benefit from when you ask why.
So, I challenge you - when life hands you "NO's", ask why!