Jun 3, 2020 in Therapy
What is Stress?
Do you sometimes feel, “What is life all about, suffer from ‘panic attacks, and/or feeling continuously anxious?”
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
What is Stress?
By Dr Vasilios Silivistris
DipSup DipComp BA MA FRSH MBACP PhD
Stress is, simply put, the adverse reaction to an excess of pressure. It is a very personal thing as the amount that we can reasonably cope with varies from person to person. It is the prolonged exposure to this state of pressure that results in
· behavioural symptoms.
In addition, stress can manifest itself from a mild irritation and general unease through to the inability to cope or function in the usual way. Pressure becomes stress when the demands far exceed our ability to respond effectively.
What Causes Stress?
We may think of stressful events as unpleasant ones, such as losing a job or having difficulties at home or at school. Nevertheless, changes for the better can also cause stress, like a new baby, a wedding, and a new house. Even lack of stimulation or demand, in other words, boredom, can also lead to stress.
In an ideal world, maybe we could get away from stressful situations, or change them. Too often, we cannot do that but we can learn to control our response to those situations. Moreover, we can develop techniques that will reduce the effects of stress on our mental and physical health.
Here are some different life events that are identified as stressful. (The higher the number, the greater the stress).
· Death of a spouse - 100 points.
· Divorce - 73 points.
· Marriage - 50 points.
· Pregnancy - 40 points.
· Buying a house - 31 points.
· Christmas - 12 points.
Does this sound familiar?
· You find it hard to concentrate or suffer from poor memory.
· Lack of confidence and self-esteem which enables you to make decisions.
· Headaches or an upset stomach.
· Irregular eating and sleeping patterns.
· Loss of libido.
· Back/shoulder and neck pain.
The Stress response is the mechanism that stems back from our primitive past where as hunters; sabre tooth tigers constantly threatened us.
Of course, the human brain initial response is for survival. However, in modern times, we have other conditions that are stressful, such as meeting deadlines, financial worries, employment insecurities, and of course this time of the year, Christmas.
Break the "Cycle of Stress"
Have you ever tried to relax, only to find that your mind quickly wanders back to worries about money, relationships, or world events? Perhaps it seems that the more you try to relax, the more tense you get. Well, you are not alone; this is the common "cycle of stress." To interrupt this cycle, take back some control; start with something small and realistic such as-
· Excise regularly.
· Minimise caffeine intake.
· Prioritise demands in your life.
· Being resourceful, doing things you enjoy doing like going to the cinema, being with your family, or going to the beach.
The good news is that, there are some simple ways you can break this cycle. Often, it is simply a matter of remembering.
· to breathe ...
· to be in your body ...
· to be mindful of what is really happening ...
· In addition, remember to smile.
South African/Cypriot Dr Vasilios Silivistris is a UK trained
Psychotherapist and counselling practitioner.
Vasilios is a member of the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (MBACP) and he works within the ethical framework for good practice, as laid down by the BACP.