Jul 18, 2022 in Life Coaching
Are You Being a Fool for Love?
Does love make you accept what you know is unacceptable?
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Well, are you? We have all heard quotes and song lyrics about being a fool for love or being a fool in love. According to Merriam-Webster’s definition, a fool is a person lacking in judgment. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be a fool in any situation, let alone for love or while I’m in love. Yet, we have all found ourselves doing just that…being a fool for someone we love. This just doesn’t apply to romantic love; it includes the love we have for our family and friends as well.
Why? Why do we assume that loving a person has to include being tolerant of things and situations we would not tolerate when love isn’t a factor? We allow those closest to us to hurt us the most and that needs to change. In every relationship, no matter the connection, our own needs, and expectations have a right to be respected and met.
Another saying is you can’t choose your family. That is correct, we can’t. Once we become adults, we do have the right to limit and control who has access to us. This includes our time, our generosity, and our love. There are people that were raised by selfish, narcissistic parents. As children, we often must live with the hand that we’re dealt, but not forever. As an adult, you have the choice of who you want to be involved in your life and in what capacity. You do not have to put up with parents, siblings, or other family members that for instance:
Add to myWE:
· Put you down or hurt your feelings, but say it is all in fun.
· Doesn't respect your time.
· Sow conflict with other family members.
· Make you feel bad about feeling bad.
· Give you the silent treatment.
· Won’t let you step outside of the family narrative…BUT WE’RE FAMILY
· You’re ALWAYS the problem.
· Belittling you or your accomplishments.
The list goes on and on. These actions mimic toxic romantic relationships because they are just as toxic if not more so. Speaking of romantic relationships, here are some signs that the connection is toxic and if you’re allowing some or all of these behaviors, you just may be a fool for love.
· Patterns of disrespect.
· Controlling behaviors.
· Frequent lying.
· Devalues your feelings.
· Isolates you from friends and family.
By now you should be thinking that all these examples could apply to romantic, platonic, and familiar relationships because they are all examples of toxic behavior that can be exhibited by ANYONE. Anyone can be toxic, and it shouldn’t matter what title they hold in your life that makes the behavior okay. Unconditional love does not equate to unconditional tolerance. Too often people assume that it does. It doesn’t. You should not be afraid to set boundaries, be independent, and know when to sever ties. One thing that will not be allowed in 2022 is accepting toxic behavior simply because we love the person. We will realize that we love ourselves MORE and we deserve to grace people that display mutual respect with our presence. I’m not saying it’s easy cutting off a toxic friend or family member but believe me when I tell you it’s worth it.
At the core of all healthy relationships, there needs to be healthy communication, trust, respect, and honesty. If you have a relationship, no matter the type, that doesn’t give you these core things, it is time to reevaluate the relationship.
In my life coaching career, I have referred many clients to therapy to deal with the lasting damage of toxic relationships with family members. Sometimes a person needs help or to talk and there’s nothing wrong with that. Do whatever you feel is necessary to be able to make the necessary changes in your life.