Feb 14, 2020 in Coaching

Resilience enabled my inner growth

This article emphasizes the importance of resilience for growth & progress. Resilience enables inner strength & grit.

BJ Jhaveri

Business coach

150 $ / session

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Resilience ***

*** getting stronger with every challenge and overcoming them

*** continuing when times are tough, and you’ve experienced some failures

*** enduring challenges with an optimistic view for a better outcome

Resilience is not cultivated in favorable conditions. During moments of adversity, an individual introspects the reasons for the occurrence, sees the bigger picture, and learns to adjust. This build effective resilience. 

Sharing my experience of developing resilience when I was faced with adversities and how it helped me in bouncing back from my failures.

After acquiring my degree in engineering and a brief stint as a hands-on technical engineer’s role in a systems integration company, I decided to take up a role in sales. In an extremely competitive market space, I had to quickly learn various soft skills such as building rapport, presenting, persuading, negotiating, etc. 

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During these years, I worked in some organizations wherein I was subjected to unrealistic revenue targets, demanding timelines, and destructive criticism from bosses. At times when I couldn’t achieve sales targets, I pondered over the events and analyzed the factors involved. I segregated the occurring failure from my effort towards the goal. This enabled me to fortify my self-worth and helped me reframe the situation. What is done by others may not always be governed or controlled by me. However, the aspects that are in my control were how I think, speak, communicate, follow-through, and collaborate. 

While many external factors were at play, in my mind’s eye I kept an optimistic viewpoint. I envisioned a future wherein I would gain respect through my work and positive contribution to the community. I trusted my ability to learn and find a way to surmount my hurdles. This belief helped me to endure tough times.

I realized that the common denominator underlining the path for my success was in maintaining high self-esteem, learning from setbacks, and improvising my approach. I was sure that when my intentions, optimistic attitude, and efforts are in alignment; then success and victory would eventually happen. These habits empowered me to relentlessly pursue my goals with zeal.

As per my observation, emotional resiliency is a mandatory skill for any leader as it enhances their capacity for mentoring.

According to the Johnson & Johnson Human Performance Institute: As adversity presents itself, pushing to expand your emotional capacity by training and ‘flexing your muscles’ of self-control, empathy or patience during these storms, your ability to adapt to and interpret these storms in a positive way may result in you becoming more resilient in any future storms you encounter.

Framework for becoming resilient:

Reflection: meditation and journaling, pondering on recent occurrences in a constructive & non-judgmental manner.

Reframe: reassessing the situation, becoming less rigid in the approach, adopting flexible thinking patterns, exploring creative alternatives & newer pathways.

Reassure: believing in yourself, your unique talents and gifts, having faith in your ability to find a solution, and maintaining a positive outlook for the outcome.

Resolve: breeding inner confidence, pursuing your goals with full gusto, developing a growth mindset. 

Quote: “The season of failure is the best time for sowing the seeds of success” – Yogananda

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