The questions you ask yourself determine the answers you get!
Imagine that you type into a computer the sentence “I don’t want this sentence to appear on the screen of this computer.” Will that sentence appear on the screen? Of course it will because your computer has to work with the information you give it.
Well guess what, your brain works in exactly the same way!
It is compelled to answer any question you ask it.
Here is a short exercise that I teach to all my NLP coaching clients, to help move them quickly from a problem mindset to a solution mindset.
Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper.
Choose a problem you have that you have not yet resolved.
Ask yourself the question “Why is this a problem?”
Now write down at least five reasons as to why this is a problem.
If you get stuck keep asking yourself "and what else?"
Now thinking about the same situation, this time instead of asking "why is this a problem?" change your question question to “What has to happen for this situation to be resolved?”