Jan 15, 2020 in Business Coaching
Developing the Art of Idleness
The benefit of taking time out to think
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Sometimes it is important to take time out and just be idle
Some definitions of the word idle:
- Without purpose or effect
- Spend time doing nothing
- Run slowly while disconnected from a load
Today because we all lead very busy lives we are in danger of losing the 'Art of Being Idle'
We are always in a rush, jumping from one thing to the next. Setting goals, talking about what you are going to achieve moving faster and faster through life.
When everyone around you is so busy, it becomes compelling to keep up the same pace.
But what if we are all busy doing nothing? Caught up on a treadmill of action that seems impossible to get off.
In this context it is easy to forget that it is really is ok to stop and do nothing.
Your brain requires to process information and you do this by having thinking time to ponder about things.
The average person speaks between 110 and 150 words per minute and thinks about 400 words per minute, so you don’t have to keep physically busy for your mind to work. Your brain will keep going even when you are doing nothing.
Your ability to process information consciously is much less than your ability to process information unconsciously.
That is why solutions to a problem 'spring to mind' when you stop thinking about it consciously and let your 'unconscious' do the work.
It's only when you stop thinking about a name you can't remember that a few moments later its appears.
The art of idleness is a powerful business skill to develop because this is where creativity lives.
Would the Universal Law of Gravitation have been discovered if Sir Isaac Newton had been running past the tree texting on his mobile when an apple fell from a tree?
Even Archimedes was in his bath when he had his 'Eureka' moment!
As a business leader it is important that you take time to give your brain space to become creative.
The more you slow down, stop and breath, the more you start to notice things around you and the better your brain works.
If you are having difficulty making a decision about something, often the best thing to do is not to make a decision at that time.
You don’t always have to be charging ahead and filling your mind with constant busy thoughts.
Some of the best decisions are made when you make space in your mind to allow lots of choices to develop.
One of the drawback of being idle enough to become creative is, that this process of becoming creative does not start until you have become really bored.
People become impatient and want things to happen fast just at the time your mind is doing the opposite.
Moving past the boredom is where the magic begins as you watch all your solutions and choices appear.
In fact, often you get choices that you would never have thought about had you rushed your natural creative thinking process.
Business is changing and the definitions of a business leader is also changing. According to some of the latest research, creative thinking is now a highly sought after skill.
The days of being chained to a desk are over. Just because someone is not at a desk does not mean that their brain is not working.
Sitting back and doing nothing is often the time when the most brilliant idea to take your company forward will appear.
So, if you are struggling to make a decision, say to yourself “ok brain you sort this out while I go off and make myself a wee cup of tea"
Learn to develop the art of idleness, you never know it just may be the best business skills you ever learn