Jan 30, 2020 in Counseling
Longevity and everything else
Financial self-care, not just for women, second part. Psychological barriers,life expectancy, making a schedule to organize
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How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
In the first post, I wrote that you should not follow previous habits and that you should first and foremost solve the time or periods when you can’t or no longer want to make money. This post starts much better.
First, I promise not less than long life. (No, there’s no free beer, at least for now.)
According to the latest WHO data published in 2018 life expectancy in Hungary is: Male 72.3, female 79.4 Although the retirement age will rise in the coming decades, we can live as a pensioner for more than 12 years. Great views! Here’s where you can find your country:
Wikipedia link with list of countries
Unfortunately, however, there is a good chance your pension will not be enough to maintain your current standard of living, and even in less fortunate cases to make a living. Moreover, the amount of the pension may be much lower for women as it stands because of wage differences.
If we assume that in 20 years’ time Hungary will be characterised by the current situation in Western Europe, still do not expect much good. The difference between women’s and men’s pensions in Western Europe is currently doubles the pay gap and reaches 40%, the Financial Times wrote, citing a 2017 survey by Mercer.
Google this expression: state pension calculator + your country (for example France or UK) and you will get some very basic view about your chances.
“It’s unpleasant, but there’s nothing we can do about it, let’s keep going,” he said. Well, wait for a sec!
When you started the last lifestyle-change program (you stopped drinking coffee, cigarettes, evening feasts, dropped 3 or 30 kilos or anything like that), I guess you assessed your weaknesses and the causes of past failures first. This is the best way to reach more success than in the previous ones. Let’s go together.
Why don’t you watch your finances?
First of all, no shame, you’re not alone. According to recent surveys, most of the population still expects the state pension system as a major source of income. At least three quarters of them do not have an emergency plan, which would apply if, for some reason, before retirement, they would lose their regular income. Downsizing, longer illnesses in the family, unexpected legal case, a more complicated leg fracture with surgeries, and there’s already trouble. Let’s make sure this does not happen.
Second, because no one taught me or if they taught me, they didn’t tell me it was important. In fact, it’s IMPORTANT. Our generation has never seen any fun financial educational films. Even when we took out our loans, the small letters could not be read without glasses. No socialization, no drive, no motivation. How much do you know more about the pros and cons of the Atkins diet, the straws that threaten the wildlife of our Earth than about short-term investments or which credit will be best for you in 15 years?
Third, because we are afraid to grow old, just as we fear that we will be sick and incapable of looking after ourselves. And what we don’t think about is non-existent! “Right? Don’t make silly jokes…. The last time you were able to calm with this argument your child was when he was 4. That’s why face the financial bogeyman, because it’s really under your bed.
Finally, it’s because our brains are furnished to be afraid of failure. Otherwise, the saber-toothed predator would have eaten us, and we wouldn’t have hunted him down. If resources are limited and the dangers are significant, we respond by delaying, postponing. We’re trying to push the threat to the end. In this case, it’s the worst tactic.
Since we’re already close to the kitchen psychology, we should take at least this very useful advice:
It is best to cut the task into parts.
So let’s not move on now than making a schedule. In the following few steps you will reach the holy grail. (but up to at least one well-structured financial portfolio) Here’s how I plan it:
Financial planning, financial situation assessment: what and how much?
Where to turn: institutional system, investor protection, retirement savings
How to choose?
Performance measurement, redesign
Can we get started? Of course, it’s impossible to become a well-trained and experienced financial professional after reading a few blog posts, but below I’ll show you some good examples that I trust. I will teach you how to choose well-trained and experienced financial professionals for your side. Come back, we will go on.