Feb 21, 2023 in Life Coaching
How to Find Your Purpose
Purpose can be found in boring aspects of life, as well as in the highest points of personal celebration. Gleen from both.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
How to Find Your Purpose
Having trouble clearly identifying your purpose? You’re not alone. I was the same way until I discovered a great big secret. Do you want to hear it? Here it is. Your purpose is everywhere. Everywhere? Everywhere! So, why did that feel so underwhelming? The reason is that part of your purpose is boring. That’s right, but so is sleeping unless of course, you have great dreams. But, let’s face it, all of life is not sky diving, high adventure and mind-blowing activities that make your hair blowback. Some of your purpose is just plain uneventful and it’s ok. This part of your purpose allows you a time to reflect, reset, and recover. Boring as a thing is underrated. It’s needed to create purpose awareness. Purpose awareness is needed to awake to a higher sense of purpose.
Americans are reported to have more stress than people in other developed countries, even though we tend to make more money, have better health care and greater opportunities than do people in those nations. How does that work? We have been taught wrong. Money can’t buy purpose, and purpose is linked to meaning-making. What is meaning-making? It’s what happens when you live your life on purpose. It’s part of the discovery. If money was the meaning objective, why is there so much tension, dysfunction, crime and illiteracy in our communities? Meaning is too expensive for money, just like there is no price tag big enough to equate to the value of the human soul, money is so inferior a commodity that it can’t buy you meaning. If it, whatever it is, has no meaning, no amount of cash will be able to fix the issue of meaninglessness. You may have heard the words, “I don’t care”. There is your meaninglessness example. Put another way, if someone does not care, it is because there is no meaning assigned, and no amount of money can remedy a meaning crisis. Understanding one’s purpose is the solution to the meaning crisis.
Find what gives you meaning, and you’re on your way to a greater sense of purpose. But let’s go back. I said to begin with that your purpose is everywhere, and that’s still true. And now that you’re free to be human, rest, get tired, make mistakes and hope for snow so that you don’t have to go to work or to school, the rest of your adventure can accept the story that is uniquely you.
If you’re still interested in finally discovering and walking in your purpose, let’s continue by dispelling the myth that you only have one purpose. You do not! It’s not possible to only have one purpose. You have too many cells in your body to think that’s true. You have too many thoughts in your head in an hour to think that’s true. You have too many systems and organs inside you for that to be true. You have multiple purposes, but it’s the one big thing that most people focus on. Think of it like this. If finding your purpose is like looking for a needle in a haystack, your purpose is the haystack, and hay is everywhere. This means that we should stop looking for one thing to define our purpose, and instead, look at what’s all around you, your gifts, motives, ideas, traditions, issues, and dreams. When you look in this area you will agree that your design potential makes you a person of multiple purposes.
What is design potential you may ask? Design potential is connected to meaning-making. For example, if you are designed to like things that are connected to something fast, loud, complicated and intricate in detail, you will be completely frustrated by activities that are slow, quiet, easy and cumbersome. That’s because if you are designed for the former, the latter will frustrate you because the description of things you don’t like is not a part of your design potential.
You can learn about the ways your design potential feeds the basis for finding your purpose. Your purpose is connected to your design potential and is part of your intelligent design. Your uniqueness is without equal. You were made intelligently and intentionally, to function using traits and characteristics that are out of this world. For example, you are a unique version of yourself with a specific DNA strand, unmatched fingerprints and voice tone designed specifically for you. You are no accident and is the proud owner of the exclusive rights of being you. Trying to be someone else shames your intelligent design and strips the earth of an original.
Although you are enough, you can still improve, and the largest area of improvement one can make is in their character. Character development makes up the most significant part of a person’s purpose. Character is a big subject, one that we will cover later, but suffice it to say, there is no way to discover your purpose without time spent evaluating personal character. We all have flaws. However, your purpose does not require perfection, because your purpose is already perfect. In other words, your intelligent design is perfect for the purpose it was created. Remember, your design came from intelligence, not coincidence. Your perfection package includes your height, eye color, hair type, skin complexion, blood type, reproductive type and too many other attributes that confirm your purpose. You’re a masterpiece, therefore, be good – be you. Walk-in your purpose. And to help you further, check out this great resource.