Dec 20, 2020 in Life Coaching
Learn how Build Yourself up!
Learning how to build yourself up, and there will be no room for tearing yourself down.. Even in your mind.
It takes inner strength to not always go with the crowd, especially when it comes to self- degradation, complaining or putting oneself down. For some people degrading themselves has even become a habit. "They say such things as, "I'm so stupid!" "Leave it to me to not get the right answer on the test." I have even seen people take there hand and hit themselves with an open palm.. and pound on thier forhead, Stupid..Stupid..Stupid! as they repeatedly hit themselves. I stepped in and told the person not to literally beat themselves up and I worked with them on a healthier way of being disappointed in themselves through positive self talk realized that this type of behavior was extreme, however, any type of self degradation is extreme it is a form of self hate, whether learned as a child and internalized as a toxic way of harming themselves based on not realizing that their behavior is abusive to oneself whether verbal or physical even subliminallly, without ,consciencely realizing that it is unhealthy or helping the person, they are actually tearing themselves down in an unhealthy. There self talk is verbally abusive. What we tell ourselves we tend to feel, I had a client once that would complain of headaches right before doing something unfamiliar, she would be fine up until an event or something she had to do. Finally, I noticed a pattern and said to her" What do you think of when you talk like that?.. like what..She really didn't know
How do you talk inwardly), to yourself and sometimes spills outwardly?
What do you tell yourself? Is what you say to yourself positive or negative? Have you ever thought of what you say to yourself?I remember one time, I tuned into my self talk and when I felt overwhelmed or things were not going right for me, my go to phrase would be.."Could it get any worse" I heard myself say it and I noticed each time I would say it things in my life did worse yeah, I completely stopped saying that phrase..Now, that I stopped saying it, I came up with a plan to turn my thinking around to being more positive even in the midst of chaotic days.
"Here are some tips:
This to shall pass"
"I'm going to make it through this.."
"I am determined to make it!"
"I can and will do better "
"I'm still here"
If you are not feeling alright, when someone ask you instead of saying no..which sounds final..instead .. try saying, "No, But, I will Be. That leaves room for hope instead of hopelessness.
Try not to put yourself down, especially around people, it's an indicator of lack of self- esteem, and everyone is not your friend, and most people get a kick out of someone putting themselves down.. Once, you start gaining confidence, some are not going to like it, s expect a challenge and stay on course.
You want to get to a point where your positive talk becomes automatic.
Look in the mirror and daily say something positive about yourself, even if you just woke up..because your confidence is built from within and radiates outwardly. I'ts Important that you embrace yourself, this is your Super Power. I cannot emphasize this enough, you are own your own team, which means.. watch your thoughts. whichever, way your feeling you are still in control of how you will respond positively or negatively, because, you for got something. watch out for the haters..they will notice a difference in you too! Smile and keep it moving. Your still under construction.
"I Love You! Saying it to yourself," Yes, it may seem awkward initially, however it's something you need to here from you, instead of someone else all the time, some of the healthier relationships are when both people love themselves before getting into a toxic relationship, with someone that doesn't even like themselves, its better to be prepared than be with someone that drains you like a battery.
You are Beautiful In Your Own way.
The purpose is not to feel guilty about being good to yourself, it is to acknowledge both the good and bad times and embrace yourself in the middle.
You can create your own affirmations and place them where you can see them as a reminder date them to also, see how far you have come and notice a difference in your new way of thinking about yourself. Be patient and try not to get discouraged...You are on the right path!