Dec 20, 2019 in Reputation
Your Reputation Crisis Outcomes Are Determined by Your Learning Skills
How fast and how well you learn will determine how much and if you recover from reputation crisis.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
Whether a reputation crisis is well deserved due to our thinking, decisions and behavior or whether it was somewhat out of our control, the long-term outcomes of it are largely determined by how hungry we are to learn and how quickly and well we do learn.
Despite this reality you will find that many organizations and individuals will fight that learning, exhibit themselves as poor learners and thereby, agree to suffer the full consequences and punishments of the crisis.
"The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it," Flannery O'Connor said.
When we choose resistance and denial because certain emotions control our better judgment, we are not problem solving, we are compounding difficulty, adversity and in the context of this article, crisis. The fire is not being controlled and put out with this mindset. It keeps burning, often spreading throughout our lives.
"It's what you learn after you know it all that counts," legendary basketball coach John Wooden taught.
It feels good to be confident. Confidence is also critical to be successful. Yet confidence without intellectual humility is weakness.
When we reject the truth that we don't always know it all, when we reject wise advisory and teaching, we are partially blind and are carrying insufficient "insurance" figuratively speaking to protect us from harm in our professional and personal lives. Low intellectual humility is dangerous and you know something, it's very common.
"Failure is success if we learn from it," billionaire entrepreneur Malcolm Forbes said.
That's right, failure is success. Powerful. But it is true if and only if we learn from that shortcoming, mistake, error in judgment or failure.
Doing such often requires putting ego in the back seat and letting our best wisdom or a professional's wisdom drive.
Yet ego always wants to drive. Humility often gets shoved to the passenger seat or back seat or entirely out of the vehicle. This is what is happening when we resist learning, when we resist the advisory that could help guide us to successfully navigate out of conflict, adversity or a reputation crisis.
Observe the news, or even people around you and will clearly recognize organizations and individuals mired in crisis often continue to harm themselves, incur additional damage because they are blind to their errors, ignorant and poor learners. They are unskilled in how to work through their reputation crisis. I could name names that most everyone has heard of yet you likely already know them.
Opportunity is only valuable if we choose to accept it. Learning is only a gift if we are receptive, if we discipline confidence and ego (overconfidence) and promote humility instead to "leadership."
The higher the skill level we show as a student the greater we increase the likelihood we will protect our reputation and restore or rebuild it in a reputation crisis. We are exhibiting wisdom when we pursue knowledge humbly and constantly.
Michael Toebe is a specialist for reputation and crisis communications, serving organizations and high-profile individuals. He is the publisher of the Reputation Times newsletter on LinkedIn and author of a new book on reputation crisis. He regularly writes advisory articles for online business magazines like Chief Executive, Corporate Board Member, Corporate Compliance Insights, Training Industry and the New York Law Journal.