Oct 2, 2019 in Therapy
Taking Charge of Stress by Developing Life Skills
The focus of this article is the importance of developing effective life skills to manage and reduce stress in our lives.
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
It is no secret that we live in a fast-paced, stressful time. Sources of stress may include such things as demanding jobs; children who need to be run to and picked up again from multiple activities - sports, dance, music lessons, etc; seemingly endless expenses; school deadlines; relationship problems, and so on.
There is a body of literature on so-called "resilient" individuals. According to the American Psychological Association, resilient people "...adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress." They experience distress like anyone else but they recover well.
Some factors that contribute to resilience include having a good support system of friends, family members, and work associates; good self-esteem; and a positive outlook. Having an assortment of skills for dealing with stressful situations is also associated with resilience. Some stress-prevention and stress reduction skills include:
(1) the ability to problem-solve;
(2) mindfulness or the ability to focus one's attention on the here-and-now without making harmful judgments about self or others;
(3) the ability to evaluate the validity of one's thoughts and beliefs and to replace distorted beliefs and unhelpful thoughts with more accurate beliefs and constructive thoughts (cognitive distortions create a lot of unnecessary emotional pain);
(4) rehearsal, either in imagination or in actual practice, to prepare for challenging upcoming events; and
(5) positive self-coaching or making empowering statements instead of deprecating statements to oneself.
The development of life skills, as is true of the development of any kind of skills (e.g., athletic, musical), takes practice. The payoff for practicing these skills is a more satisfying life with less anxiety, worry, and conflict.