Apr 6, 2020 in Counseling
Who Am I - Career Quest
Understanding yourself is the first step to choosing the right career
How do I fix a marriage after cheating??
My husband of 5 years has cheated on me. I'm heartbroken. Can I fix our marriage?? Is there hope for us?? Will things get better? Please help
Am I over reacting? Am I the one in the wrong no him
Ok I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he denied cheating on me but everything points to the opposite he's gone to spend the night with his baby moma and her kids in a hotel he rated me put to her when I called the cops on her for her vandalizing my car he would defend her when I would bring thing up about her and he has a video of her playing with her self am I wrong for being mad?
We both have insecurities and trust issues due to past relationships... So, there's the back and forth accusations, yelling, name calling, etc. We are both extremely jealous and have no communication skills. We love each other but sometimes Love isn't enough to make someone understand that you aren't going to hurt them. How can we help each other overcome these issues?
Idk what to do
My boyfriend and I have been fighting because he found some old messages that I had when we started going out, the messages are not bad the conversations where just like hi and bye kind of thing but because I told him I wasn't talking to anyone he's mad but da whole time he was still hanging out with his baby momma behind my back and he would delete all his messages to her so I wouldn't see them
Lost and confused at a crossroads
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years now. We have had a very tumultuous relationship both of us have hurt each other very much on each parts. But he’s done a lot more wrong it has no accountability. But my question is how do you handle it because anytime I try to talk to him about anything he automatically yells at me, deflects, accuse me of cheating. How do you go about handling
How can I get my teen to confide in me
I've been trying to get my son to confide in me about why he is feeling so depressed. He is 15 years old and a very good teen but have no idea why he is so withdrawn and quiet. Please help me I cant bear to see him like this
What do I do?
I'm not sure what to do. Recently separated mom with 2 young girls and pregnant with my 3rd.
I took my son's Ipad away because I'm at my wit's end with him.
He is so addicted and doesn’t want to do anything else. Can anyone tell me whether I did the right thing or am I being too harsh?
It's 3 y I divorced and we have shared custody of 2 lovely kids. Any advice on how to make them understand that divorced parents is ok?
What should I do?
My son is acting out in school and giving people the middle finger and running around and hitting when he is restrained and he also has speech apraxia and may have ADHD
‘Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.’ Confucius
How do I choose a job I love ? How do I choose a career that’s right for me?
These are questions many have asked time and again. The answer is both simple and complex at the same time.
There are a couple of things one needs to do to get to the ‘right answer.’
If I am trying to choose a career then an important first step would be to understand who I am as a person. Now you’re going to say – what’s difficult about that? I already know who I am. I know so many things about myself. So why should that be tough? But when I’ve asked students to tell me about themselves they usually come up with answers like ‘I like playing cricket, watching movies, and when I dig a little deeper they add ‘I like to read and I also like spending time with my friends.’ So that’s ok – they are sharing what they like doing and how they spend their time. But that’s not entirely who we are. There is so much more to one’s nature and individual personality than just that.
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So if someone is trying to understand themselves. Here are some of the questions to reflect upon and answer.
What are my likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses?
How do I react in various situations ?
What makes my heart beat faster or what are the things I really love doing?
What are my interests? What sports do I play and why do I enjoy those?
What do I excel in effortlessly? What are the things that I find challenging and need to put a lot of hard work into?
What do I do when faced with a challenge or a task that seems insurmountable? Do I turn away or do I move through it with determination?
Do I take risks often? Occasionaly?
What are those things that I don’t enjoy too much?
Do I like working in groups, do I need to be around people to feel energised or do I enjoy working on my own?
Do I learn by doing or do I learn from courses and study material?
So when asked these questions a few will have ready answers while most will need to think through for a bit. And that’s perfectly fine. We keep discovering things about ourselves as we go through various situations in life. But we need to make a conscious effort to know ourselves better while choosing a career and for other important decisions as well. So it makes sense to take the time to do this self-analysis.
Some of the ways understand ourselves better
Keeping a journal. One could spend 15 – 20 minutes at night to write in the journal. Over a period of time this will help give a lot of mental clarity and help delve deeper into ones nature as well.
Another thing one could do is speak to a close friend or family member to validate some of the ideas about oneself. Ask them questions about what they think of you. You need to take their feedback and reflect upon that see if what they are saying sits with your own thoughts and ideas about yourself. Others might see you differently from how you see yourself. But this gives you an additional data point to work on.
There are also a number of personality tests that will give you insights like the MBTI (https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/home.htm?bhcp=1), 16 Personal Factors (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/16PF_Questionnaire), DISC Profile (https://www.discprofile.com/).
Use any of the tools and self-reflection to get to a deeper understanding of your personality, strengths and weaknesses and interests.
Getting to know yourself better will help you choose a career that is suitable to your own nature, needs and interests. Having a better understanding oneself will help not only in choosing the right career but will also equip a person to make better decisions in other areas of life as well. So it is definitely time well spent!